Is it sexist to want a wife to cook, clean, have kids?

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I don't care if the woman I marry works but is all of this considered sexist, I mean alot women expect a future husband to be able to support the family financially how is that any different?
 
No. Not at all. Women have evolved over eons of time to manage the cooking, cleaning, and raising of children. No offense to the liberation movement but let's face it, men evolved to be stronger and they would hunt the food and the women would clean and cook it. Sounds fair to me. In todays world, men are consistently higher wage earners so they bring home the cash and the women do the shopping and cooking. Still sounds fair to me.
BTW....why is it that you don't have to buy a women a watch? Because there is a clock on the stove. LOL! j/k.
 
It is considered sexist (even though it is basically just a preference), because it suggests that you consider different roles to be suitable for men and women.
Don't worry, most people are sexist.
And people accept a lot more behavior from women - women being sexist isn't considered bad, probably because women generally aren't considered a threat. Men being sexists sometimes scares women, but never the other way around.
 
It is ok to want to have a wife who is capable of doing these things, but you ARE going to have to take up some of the responsibilty. And if she works you are going to have to carry half of it rather than just part of it.

I work, and my husband takes on half of the housework. I often times do the cooking, but we share everything else: Running errends, housekeeping, taking care of children, child activities and even things like plumbing or fixing the car. And when I am gone on work trips, my husband will do all the cooking for the children and is event eaching our sons how to cook.

It is normal for the wife to focus on children more, because she is more connected to them than the father. But you will need to do work. A stay-at-home mother works 24/7, never stops. Regular work takes only about 8 hrs a day 5 days a week which is a lot less work. It is not fair that you come home and get to relax after a hard day of work, wheras your wife has to continue working from the moment she gets up to the moment she goes to bed. Now, if your wife is a housewife you won't have to do as much work but you will still have to help around the house anyways...
 
no sir, it's not at all sexist. i tip my hat to you for knowing what's important to you and being able to prioritize.

make sure you marry someone who can fulfill that role cheerfully, efficiently, and proudly.
 
Some women want a man who cooks, cleans, and takes care of the kids. Hey, actually, that's one of my best friends. :D

Look for a woman who wants the same things you do, and that's fine. However, don't go forcing anyone to do all the housework or fit in your model. It's not fair to try and change people.

Also, not all women want men to be the bread winners.

@The Man: My fellow isn't sexist, and he gets sex at least 7 times a week. Enjoy your almost once a week hooker.
 
No, you just have to tally up. Both want the traditional roles you describe or both not. You do usually find that the men who expect this of women expect to be the provider and most women who want a provider expect their role to be home orientated. Women who want a career first and foremost will be less likely to look for a provider although many women would like a partner's income to be good too so they can have a good lifestyle. Men who are attracted to career women will be likely to expect to do the cleaning etc himself or for them both to pay for these things.

My husband was the provider for years when my daughter was born and I did all the childcare stuff and cleaning etc. Now she is at school and I am doing a degree after which I will probably earn a lot more than him. If he wanted to take time away from working and be at home for our daughter I will enable him to do that. I think he will choose to continue to work tho but maybe he could do a course in carpentry and earn more and enjoy work more? This is how it should work. We adapt and take in each others needs and what suits the family and each person in it. There are no expectations except mutual support and flexibility.
 
No, as long as he finds a woman that wants that too. There is no point in trying to change anyone, as long as both of you are happy and living how you want to live.
 
You'll notice women NEVER expect from THEMSELVES what they expect of you - or men.

So who cares if a woman thinks it's "sexist"???????

The fact that woman thinks you should be a "gentleman" is SEXIST in itself.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jiM89ih-ffU

NEVER be that guy.

Not only will chauvinism get you laid and make your life more enjoyable, but you will also make more money!! And we ALL know how women LOVE men who make more money.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7625173.stm

A recent study by the University of Florida reports that men who have "sexist" attitudes make $8,500 more per year than their pussy-whipped counterparts. That’s enough money to buy 42 decent prostitutes! 60 if you live near UCSD! In terms that even a woman could understand: that’s enough money to have sex almost every week.

Take that all of you obnoxious, uptight school marms out there with sticks up yer butts and imaginary psychology degrees in your hands. The University of Florida just proved that chauvinists have no trouble getting our gear greased. If $8,500 can’t get you laid, no amount of “progressive pretending” will.

And save the “it doesn’t count if you pay for it” argument because men always pay for sex. Sex is the only reason we buy nice shoes. Sex is why Appletini mix is even sold in bars.
 
the problem is if the woman isn't willing, or the hubby can't make enough money to support the family. sometimes it's necessary mother works.

being a pig in the house, making unnecessary messes for her to clean up is sexist.
 
No, it's perfectly fine to know what you want in a partner. Good for you.
 
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