My mom is really close to her family of five sisters and two brothers. Many years ago, when my grandfather was alive, my mom saved the family house and property that was to be auctioned, by settling the mortgage with her own money. My mom never got the money back nor did she ask for it.
Later on my grandfather split the property into 7 so that each sibling inherits a portion. However, once my mom was married, she gave up her portion to her elder sister (for an insignificant amount even at the time) as she moved to a different city with my dad. But the rest of the family held on to their property up to now and continued to have a very good relationship with each other (including my mom) even though more of my mom's family moved to different cities/countries over the years. We all visit the family home for special occasions and family reunions.
Since recent years, there has been talk among the family that they might sell the property, and my mom has slowly mentioned that if they do sell, to kindly remember her and let her also benefit from the sale considering that she saved the property many years ago, by giving her the proceeds from the few yards of common roadway in the middle of the property which was not split among the siblings. The members of the family never refuted that while some even agreed to it.
Now more than 25 years after the property was saved, my moms family has sold the entire property and split the proceeds equally among the six who continued to hold their portion and excluded my mom completely. They kept my mom in the dark throughout the entire sale and did not care to tell her that they were actually selling. She found out the family house was sold and they had moved to different houses afterwards. My Dad and I were shocked as we always thought better of my moms family.
All this has really hurt my moms feelings, the illusive way her family acted and being deprived of a chance to visit her old home for the last time, both for sentimental reasons and also as she held more value for the family house and property since she had saved it as a young girl many years ago..But when reproached, my mom’s family says that she has no right to the property anyway and they have no obligation to let her know. Of course this may seem right from a legal point as she gave up her right to her portion. However, from a humane point of view, shouldn’t her family have more heart and be more compassionate? Specially since they always shared important things that involved the family in the past..Now, the relationship between my mom and her family is quite strained as they seem to believe that all my mom wants is the money and say hurtful things to my mom. But all she wants is to be acknowledged as the one who made it possible for the rest of her siblings to reap the benefit from what she saved and some gratitude for it..Is that wrong?
Further, we just heard that 04 out of six siblings have collected a small sum of money (1% from the sale proceeds) and has offered it to my mom.. We are just making ends meet after my dad lost his job and the money would be very helpful, but my mom does not know whether to take it or not after all that has happened.. Would accepting the offer make it look like that it was the money that my mom was after all?
Later on my grandfather split the property into 7 so that each sibling inherits a portion. However, once my mom was married, she gave up her portion to her elder sister (for an insignificant amount even at the time) as she moved to a different city with my dad. But the rest of the family held on to their property up to now and continued to have a very good relationship with each other (including my mom) even though more of my mom's family moved to different cities/countries over the years. We all visit the family home for special occasions and family reunions.
Since recent years, there has been talk among the family that they might sell the property, and my mom has slowly mentioned that if they do sell, to kindly remember her and let her also benefit from the sale considering that she saved the property many years ago, by giving her the proceeds from the few yards of common roadway in the middle of the property which was not split among the siblings. The members of the family never refuted that while some even agreed to it.
Now more than 25 years after the property was saved, my moms family has sold the entire property and split the proceeds equally among the six who continued to hold their portion and excluded my mom completely. They kept my mom in the dark throughout the entire sale and did not care to tell her that they were actually selling. She found out the family house was sold and they had moved to different houses afterwards. My Dad and I were shocked as we always thought better of my moms family.
All this has really hurt my moms feelings, the illusive way her family acted and being deprived of a chance to visit her old home for the last time, both for sentimental reasons and also as she held more value for the family house and property since she had saved it as a young girl many years ago..But when reproached, my mom’s family says that she has no right to the property anyway and they have no obligation to let her know. Of course this may seem right from a legal point as she gave up her right to her portion. However, from a humane point of view, shouldn’t her family have more heart and be more compassionate? Specially since they always shared important things that involved the family in the past..Now, the relationship between my mom and her family is quite strained as they seem to believe that all my mom wants is the money and say hurtful things to my mom. But all she wants is to be acknowledged as the one who made it possible for the rest of her siblings to reap the benefit from what she saved and some gratitude for it..Is that wrong?
Further, we just heard that 04 out of six siblings have collected a small sum of money (1% from the sale proceeds) and has offered it to my mom.. We are just making ends meet after my dad lost his job and the money would be very helpful, but my mom does not know whether to take it or not after all that has happened.. Would accepting the offer make it look like that it was the money that my mom was after all?