Is this illegal? husband posted/traded nude photos on the internet w/out consent?

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I was wondering what your thoughts were on this....sometimes I wonder if I'm over reacting? I've been married nine years to my husband who is in the Army. During our marriage he has always looked at porn, but I didn't really mind. I only didn't want him corresponding with people over the internet with regards to sex etc. He did eventually get an account with adult frienfinder....just to look at porn, he says. He knew that crossed the line and deleted his account when I found out.
Anyway, he was sent to Iraq for 15 months. During which he joined a swingers website, and I didn't know. During his deployment, I sent him nude and very naughty photos of myself. I never dreamed that he would pass them out to his "friends" that he met on the swingers site. He had been doing this the whole time he was there and I had no clue. He told these people what I would do to them sexually. He even told them my name. He also sent a naughty video that we made when he came home on leave to people. I found all of this out the night he returned home from Iraq. It was all on his computer. Emails saying that he had new photos of the wifey, and asking if anyone wanted to trade. He had even saved a picture of some guy jerking off to my pics. He even sent the last batch of pics out to people the day he returned home before I met up with him. I feel so violated, he knew that those were for his eyes only. He said he will do whatever to keep our marriage together, but I think I am foolish if I stay. Is what he did Illegal????
 
Unfortunately what he did was not illegal. Since you sent them these images, and they were taken with your consent, those images are now his property and he can distribute them as he wishes.

If the images were not sent to him by you, and they were taken against your will you may have something but since you took them and sent them freely they are his.

This guy has a serious perversion and even though there is consuling availiable, it is damn near impossible to change what a person is attracted to or what gratifies them sexually. This is why its almost impossible to change a homosexuals attration, or a pedophiles attraction towards children. The best you could hope for is him activly working to supress those desires. But with all type of addicts the odds aren't good and there's always relapse.

Plus porn addicts only progress further and further. Soon one type of pornography doesn't satisfy them anymore, so they turn to harder, and more preverted pornography. Then once they run out of that they try to meet thier desires in real life. Who's to say one day he's not going to bring someone else home for you and try to make you inact a senario for them.

My personal opinion is to seperate and move on, because trying to save this is going to bring you to more frustration, more humilation and anger as he promises to stop but yet you find more and more vile things on his computer. It will happen no matter what he promises.
 
The only porn that's illegal in the military is kiddie porn, but on a government computer no porn should be downloaded.

As for the photo swapping, what he did there was unethical (but not illegal) and a total disregard to you as the wife he claims he loves.

When I was in Iraq I found A LOT of porn on government computers that were filed on shared drives, so that the guys could "enjoy"
them when they felt alone in the office. The only times the brass penalized this was if it was kiddie porn. The reasoning was because they felt the porn was safer than soldiers assaulting female soldiers; those acts were treated highly secret as there were many assaults in Iraq against women.

Do you want to stay in such a marriage in which you can no longer trust him? You both need to talk this out seriously. Otherwise he could be throwing his career away if he finds out that after ten years of marriage you are filing for divorce and there goes half of his retirement check once you are divorced.
 
internet porn is illegal period, with or without consent. Children have access to the internet, that is why. No, TR is wrong, I have taken 40 credit hours in criminal justice classes thank you. The first ammendment deals with freedom of speech, freedom of religion, and freedom of press, has nothing to do with internet pornography thank you. And it is illegal to post pornography on the internet period. But yes, it also is a civil matter in which could sue him as well. Pornography is not illegal, and will more than likely never be made illegal because the first ammendment protects ones freedom of expression, but not when that expression could potentially be harmful to minors.
 
he's a porn addict. you should feel violated. not sure if it's illegal cause that depends on the state or country it was done.
 
I would say so, yes. He did it without your consent. They were meant to be private. It's defamation of character. Now the trust is broken, too.
 
I am unsure but I will say that yes it is illegal (if it isn't illegal then maybe laws should be changed). When you gave the pictures to him, it was understood by him that you intended the pictures to be viewed by him only. It would be a copyright violation for him to share the pictures without your permission. This would be the same as copying a photo from a magazine and publishing it without the magazine's permission. You own the rights to the pictures that you took and shared with him.
 
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