knight9000
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romantically felt this way? From a lot of what I've read as far as dating advice both online and in-print, it seems that most people would universally rate physical attraction and physical chemistry just as important, if not more important than, *non-physical* romantic affection between two potential partners. Or in other words, romantic love is almost always impossible without physical desire also being present (in equal or greater proportions) to feelings of non-physical affection. Or to put it in simpler terms, you cannot have romantic love for someone without also having an equal amount of physical lust. (This would seem to explain the "let's just be friends" issue common among opposite-gender friends, where one friend cares about the other romantically, but the other person does feel the same way, and only wants to be friends.)
As a guy, my problem seems to be that whenever I am attracted romantically to a girl, the love/lust ratio is never 50% love / 50% desire. It's always much more like 90% love / 10% desire for me. People are always telling me I "fall in love too easily", that I "should play the field more", or that I "expect too much, too soon" in terms of romantic love and (non-physical) affection in a potential relationship. If a girl is sincerely nice, kind, and affectionate to me, that in itself is attractive to me, and physical chemistry is almost completely irrelevant to me, since IMO, that can always be developed at a later stage down the road in the relationship.
Ladies: would you consider my whole take on this to be abnormal? For example, if you knew a guy who hypothetically felt this way about you (90% love / 10% desire ratio), would it be an automatic turn-of for you?
As a guy, my problem seems to be that whenever I am attracted romantically to a girl, the love/lust ratio is never 50% love / 50% desire. It's always much more like 90% love / 10% desire for me. People are always telling me I "fall in love too easily", that I "should play the field more", or that I "expect too much, too soon" in terms of romantic love and (non-physical) affection in a potential relationship. If a girl is sincerely nice, kind, and affectionate to me, that in itself is attractive to me, and physical chemistry is almost completely irrelevant to me, since IMO, that can always be developed at a later stage down the road in the relationship.
Ladies: would you consider my whole take on this to be abnormal? For example, if you knew a guy who hypothetically felt this way about you (90% love / 10% desire ratio), would it be an automatic turn-of for you?
