So to make it very clear from the beginning. I am falling in love with this girl. We have been hanging out for about five months now. When we first started to hang out, I was not expecting to ever develop feelings for her (mainly because she is so gorgeous and I felt that I had no chance with her). When we first started to hang out, I just wanted to be friends with her because she is cool, and fun to hang out with. I honestly had no romantic feelings for her. Soon we had become bestfriends. She tells me I am her bestfriend occasionally. About three months ago, we started to hang out much more often. We are together so often, a lot of people just automatically started to assume that we were dating. Now, it literally is a strange night if I don’t see her. We see each other at least six days a week, unless something is going on.
About two months ago is when I started to feel like I may be developing real feelings for her. And it is true. I officially have developed very strong feelings for her. And I am in a weird spot and I don’t know how to handle it. Because I have never had these feelings for a friend before, and I don’t know how to make her my girlfriend. Like i said I see her every single night. And I think about her every night I try to sleep. We do everything together we hang out, do daily chores, grocery shopping, out to dinner, make dinner, baseball games, everything…
There have been a few events in recent weeks that have made my head spin, and make me feel like she may also have similar feelings. Here are the events. I think that drunk words are sober thoughts. And twice while we were drinking she told me that I am the “perfect” guy, and asked me “how did you become so perfect.” And she told me that once also when we weren’t drinking, and followed it up by saying that she has never said that to any guy before. She has told me a few very personal and deep things about her she said that only a few people knew about, and even showed me a few things, and followed it up by saying “You are the first person I have showed this to.” She talks about me to her mother all of the time. And she talks about me to her friends all of the time too. She has even told at least one of her girlfriends that I know about, that I am “perfect.” I have fb messaged a few of her friends to let them know how I feel about her, and asked for advice. But none of them were of any help.
Now the confusion…. All of the above events catches you up all the way to the last two weeks. A couple weeks ago, She asked me what was on my mind. She said she knew something was bothering me and I wasn’t telling her. This was true. What was on my mind, was the I had realized recently that I had fallen in love with her, my best friend, and I didn’t know what to do about it. Anyways, I told her nothing was wrong, and that bought me a few days of her not asking me. Then finally one night, she asked me an d I gave in. I only told her though because she said “I know more about how you feel about me, than you think I know.” Which made me feel like her friends told he how I felt about her and she knew. So I confessed all of my feelings to her. She said she had no idea that I felt that way about her. And then she continued to say how she has never been single before. And she isn’t ready for a relationship because there is a lot of stuff that she wants to figure out and become secure and more responsible with in her own life before she lets someone into it fully. Since then, we just act like that conversation never happened, and nothing about us has changed in the least bit. We did however, have a conversation where she told me that she believes that the very best relationships… the ones that last forever are the ones that grow out of friendship. I have no idea if she even had any meaning behind that.
Anyways, at this point, I don’t know what to do. I am in love with her and want a relationship with her. And I don’t know if I should wait for her to “be ready” or just move on. And honestly, it is difficult to remain “just friends” with her. So I know a lot of ppl will say don’t do anything bc it will hurt your friendship with her… well honestly, me not doing anything and remaining “just friends” will hurt our friendship too. So advice would be good. And ladies, gimme your insight and tell me what you think. Judging from the events that have happened and the things that were said, does she really just wanna be single and get her **** straight for a while, or was it a polite put down.
About two months ago is when I started to feel like I may be developing real feelings for her. And it is true. I officially have developed very strong feelings for her. And I am in a weird spot and I don’t know how to handle it. Because I have never had these feelings for a friend before, and I don’t know how to make her my girlfriend. Like i said I see her every single night. And I think about her every night I try to sleep. We do everything together we hang out, do daily chores, grocery shopping, out to dinner, make dinner, baseball games, everything…
There have been a few events in recent weeks that have made my head spin, and make me feel like she may also have similar feelings. Here are the events. I think that drunk words are sober thoughts. And twice while we were drinking she told me that I am the “perfect” guy, and asked me “how did you become so perfect.” And she told me that once also when we weren’t drinking, and followed it up by saying that she has never said that to any guy before. She has told me a few very personal and deep things about her she said that only a few people knew about, and even showed me a few things, and followed it up by saying “You are the first person I have showed this to.” She talks about me to her mother all of the time. And she talks about me to her friends all of the time too. She has even told at least one of her girlfriends that I know about, that I am “perfect.” I have fb messaged a few of her friends to let them know how I feel about her, and asked for advice. But none of them were of any help.
Now the confusion…. All of the above events catches you up all the way to the last two weeks. A couple weeks ago, She asked me what was on my mind. She said she knew something was bothering me and I wasn’t telling her. This was true. What was on my mind, was the I had realized recently that I had fallen in love with her, my best friend, and I didn’t know what to do about it. Anyways, I told her nothing was wrong, and that bought me a few days of her not asking me. Then finally one night, she asked me an d I gave in. I only told her though because she said “I know more about how you feel about me, than you think I know.” Which made me feel like her friends told he how I felt about her and she knew. So I confessed all of my feelings to her. She said she had no idea that I felt that way about her. And then she continued to say how she has never been single before. And she isn’t ready for a relationship because there is a lot of stuff that she wants to figure out and become secure and more responsible with in her own life before she lets someone into it fully. Since then, we just act like that conversation never happened, and nothing about us has changed in the least bit. We did however, have a conversation where she told me that she believes that the very best relationships… the ones that last forever are the ones that grow out of friendship. I have no idea if she even had any meaning behind that.
Anyways, at this point, I don’t know what to do. I am in love with her and want a relationship with her. And I don’t know if I should wait for her to “be ready” or just move on. And honestly, it is difficult to remain “just friends” with her. So I know a lot of ppl will say don’t do anything bc it will hurt your friendship with her… well honestly, me not doing anything and remaining “just friends” will hurt our friendship too. So advice would be good. And ladies, gimme your insight and tell me what you think. Judging from the events that have happened and the things that were said, does she really just wanna be single and get her **** straight for a while, or was it a polite put down.