Live with your lover before getting married. Agree? Disagree? Discuss.?

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Barney

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Would you buy a pair of shoes without trying them on? This is a personal value choice, but personally I would never marry a man I had not lived with. I do not believe you truly know a person without living with them. Marriage is difficult enough in this day to make work without marrying someone you don't really know well.
 
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Yennytt

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i disagree cuz then theres no wedding bells...secondly it goes against my beliefs i believe in getting married FIRST. but once again everyone is different, so at the end is ur decision, think abt it and see how u feel and uu choice cuz this is a serious thing to do
 
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LisaB1

Member
Agree! Spend as much time as possible dating, engaged, living together, whatever before marrying. "Till death do us part" is a helluva long time (especially when you're unhappy). Be extra sure about it!
 
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MrsRed

New member
Yes because then you get to know the real them. You get to see the real them when they wake up, their bad habits, what they do, what they don't do. Living together does not have to mean have sex if you don't believe in sex before marriage. You should know what you are getting into before you marry.
 
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steelersgrl74

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I lived with my old man for 6 yrs and we had a daughter together. When we did get married he turned into a complete controlling prick. He even put his hands on me when I was 6 mths pregnant with our son. My advice-make darn sure you know someone before spending the rest of your life with him.
 
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SchnauzerMomm

New member
I would encourage you to at least be engaged before living together. That provides a little more commitment than just 'boyfriend/girlfriend' and also helps alleviate the "We've been living together for five years, when is he gonna ask me to marry him?" questions that you see here all too often.
 
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Shelly

Member
yes it s a great idea. i lived with mine for a year got engaged for 6 months and then got married. you will learn alot about someone once you live with them.and you might realize this at the person i want to marry. so better do that 1st because a divorce is very expensive good luck
 
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HotArmyWife

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I lived with my husband for 8 months before we got married, i think that is a good decision, it lets you know all of their habits/characteristics. I say go for it. Then when you marry them, you won't be surprised.
 
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juiced29@ymailecom

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I don't think it matters. U should do what u are comfortable with.
Some say living together will reveal certain things but if that person
wants to hide something about themselves, living together won't
necessarily make it show. Go with your gut!!
 
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mInvisiblePinkUnicornm

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I'm old fashioned -

I didn't live with either one of my husbands -

My first ended after 4 years, he passed away from leukemia complications we met in high school and were both virgins at the ages of 26 and 28 respectively when we married -

My 2nd while we did have "relations" we didn't officially move in together until AFTER we married -

Been happily married and have an amazing sex life 6yrs later

I firmly believe that had my first not passed away we would've celebrated 21yrs this past July
 
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