marital issue,I cant get past it...hubbys addicted to internet porn?

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It became increasingly worse, after We went to bed,I'd wake up & he'd be on the comp., wackin it in chatrooms,even using meds for stimulation.He knew I saw him sometimes, If i walked in he's turn off the comp. QUICKLY! I had to finally confront him. No smart ass answers please about me not taking care of things,I DO! I'm very hot & sexy.I'm not a prude. 23 years of marriage on the rocks here,I don't trust him anymore..How far would he have gone? How can I get past this?
 
Perhaps it is time to get rid of the computer or disconnect your Internet service. He is cheating on you and putting his marriage in jeopardy. When something causes problems in your marriage, it needs to be gotten rid of. Throw the computer in the garbage because it is where he is looking at this smut.
 
Generally, I say that some porn isn't a problem unless it replaces the affection between the couple. It sounds like that's what happened here. This is a problem.

Like any addiction, he has to go cold turkey. An alcoholic can't have a drink once in a while. A drug addict can't get high once in a while. He has to decide what his priority in life is: the relationship or the porn.

He has to determine what attracts him to porn. Are there certain fetishes he has that he hasn't told you? Maybe you could work those into your sex life. Is he feeling alienated in the relationship so he looking to strangers for attention? Why does he turn to porn? What does it do for him? That's important. I'm not blaming you, here. Its his choice, its his addiction, but its a couples problem.

The two of you have to have an open an honest communication on this. Maybe even counseling.
 
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