erica_bischoff
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Albany and disabled and my mom..10 pts? in 2006 my mom made us all move in only one day from Maryland with a crazy woman named Crystal who is from Albany, NY & who she met online. Since August 2006, because my mom agreed to take me back since I was in college and Crystal wanted to get rid of me). But my sister who is now 21 and brother who is now 24 are still living in Albany with my mom and the woman, and the other day for the first time since I can remember my brother called me and said he was no longer living with my mom and Crystal but rather living with Crystal's son, because he could not put up with Crystal anymore. He also said he wants to come stay with us, so I phoned adult protective services and told them what was going on, which essentially my mom to contact me for what was SERIOUSLY the first time since I saw her in 2006. She refused to attend her own mother's funeral, she would not even come to college graduation, she ignored me completely despite several EXTREMELY awkward attempts to contact her...but yet she can still somehow get my number and call me when she thinks I did something that will get her in trouble. It had actually been so long did not even know it was her when she called.
But she asked me if I want my brother to come here, and was talking about him getting down here. If he took greyhound bus he would have to go first from Albany to NYC, then transfer to a DC bus, but she thinks he might not be able to do that alone because he is disabled, so then she talked about my father and I taking the bus up there to get him.
Now my brother does get an SSI check which my mother uses, and my mother owes me more money than I can even recall. So she could easily at least just take the bus with him to NYC to help him or something, or send us some money so that we can take the bus up there. But my father and I have NO money to buy bus tickets to go up there, as we are both unemployed and are basically living in a mobile home off of his retirement check of only $821 per month. Yet my mother is trying to make it sound like WE don't care or don't want him here, just because we have no money to take the bus up there, when she could VERY easily help him to get here which is what he wants to do with his OWN money, and she was talking like unless we go up there to get him. But my mom has nothing to do with it!! He is an adult and he wants to come down here, so he can!
My question is first of all, is it even a good idea to have my brother come here in the first place? Because there may have to be someone with him at all times, but I am a 22 yr old college graduate and not that I don't want to be with him, but I do want to get a job/meet someone and start a family if I can. Next question, what can I do about getting my brother down here, when my father and I do not have money to take the bus to get him and my mother tries to make it sound like we don't care and is not going to send him down here (unless we come to get him)?
But she asked me if I want my brother to come here, and was talking about him getting down here. If he took greyhound bus he would have to go first from Albany to NYC, then transfer to a DC bus, but she thinks he might not be able to do that alone because he is disabled, so then she talked about my father and I taking the bus up there to get him.
Now my brother does get an SSI check which my mother uses, and my mother owes me more money than I can even recall. So she could easily at least just take the bus with him to NYC to help him or something, or send us some money so that we can take the bus up there. But my father and I have NO money to buy bus tickets to go up there, as we are both unemployed and are basically living in a mobile home off of his retirement check of only $821 per month. Yet my mother is trying to make it sound like WE don't care or don't want him here, just because we have no money to take the bus up there, when she could VERY easily help him to get here which is what he wants to do with his OWN money, and she was talking like unless we go up there to get him. But my mom has nothing to do with it!! He is an adult and he wants to come down here, so he can!
My question is first of all, is it even a good idea to have my brother come here in the first place? Because there may have to be someone with him at all times, but I am a 22 yr old college graduate and not that I don't want to be with him, but I do want to get a job/meet someone and start a family if I can. Next question, what can I do about getting my brother down here, when my father and I do not have money to take the bus to get him and my mother tries to make it sound like we don't care and is not going to send him down here (unless we come to get him)?