coolbreeze~
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feel sorry for him and listen? to his BS.. he goes too far.. maybe he misunderstands something.. he does that a lot.. not my fault he half ass listens and assumes he knows what he is talking about.. anyway.. he will go to work,my friends,I met him there,his best friend from childhood and his mother,who repeats everything to his x..
he will vent,rant,rave..just like he did at home while I ignored him and said absolutely nothing to him..I let him vent,gave him time and space to calm down and understand that he is wrong..
but he runs his mouth before he comes to understand that it was all in his head.. so his X is stalking him trying to get with him,his son cusses me out.. this is not the first time he has done this.. get's his entire family in an uproar when I have done nothing.. so now he is calling me and asking me to forgive him again.. I feel sick. I had a good reputation and one of respect in my town but he makes me out to be something I'm not. I never raise my voice,never bitch at him..never boss him around. I leave him to make his own mistake,grow as a person and be a human with free will. be responsible for his actions. I really don't want to look at him right now. his x beating on the door asking him if he is OK.. saying I abuse him. his friends and our co-workers all feeling sorry for him.. even now he called and tried to give me an ultimatum to work things out by not saying a word to him about what he has done..to just pretend like he didn't hurt me,like he hasn't betrayed me,lied about me.. I know he would do it again if he get's mad (doesn't get his way) he works,he is sweet most of the time. for 6 months everything is flowers and wild sex,nice fun relationship then out of the blue he get's mad and back stabs me again. I get hate mail from people in his family I have never met.. he loves to play the victim when HE is the verbal and emotional abuser. now he just wants it to all be OK and we snuggle and forget about it again while people think he is stupid for being with me. he did this. he ruins the rep of our marriage with his little tantrums. I'm sick of his poor little me shit. he is a giant.. a big loud giant. I am a quiet,caring child care worker and I take care of seniors it the center as a volunteer..take care of under privileged children. He is ruining my rep as a person and I'm pissed.. I don't think he will change even tho he admits to me he was wrong,he was lying,he was venting BS he was wrong to even be mad.. he would never do that behind my back to the same people he tells all that BS. what do I do with him ?
he is a big loud whiner beetch. I have gone thru this telling no one in my family or his,or even my best friend.
Eliza.you don't know what you are talking about. if that were true, it would be understandable.. my x left me for another woman after I stayed for my sons to have a father and gave up on the idea of having a daughter.
My husbands son who cussed at me is by his x..my son would never cuss me. He would be pissed if he saw how my current husband talks about me.
yes,I am venting,on an anonymous site. not to my family or his friends. I am looking for advice on how to make him understand marriage is between two people. because he would rather sweep it under the rug until next time and for me to continue to treat him as sweet as I always do with no consequences. I hate fighting and I won't fight like that.
not changing my story Eliza. I was hoping he would leave during fights,I felt no desire to work things out..there is much more to it.. his rick band and me home with the kids..his college I paid for and screwing me out of mine. I adore my sons but no one has the right to tell me I'm not going to have daughters also without talking to me about it first,that is very disrespectful.
but I do very strongly respect your take on the situation,even tho you don't understand it,I admire you standing up for my sons.
BTW. I am very good friends with that x,we have holiday dinners together even tho our son's are grown and we did a great job of co-parenting and raising incredible young men. we are still very close and he would tell you he was a selfish ass for what he did. He loves my daughters as well. treats them like nieces. didn't work out with the woman he left with and he has some regrets now.
he will vent,rant,rave..just like he did at home while I ignored him and said absolutely nothing to him..I let him vent,gave him time and space to calm down and understand that he is wrong..
but he runs his mouth before he comes to understand that it was all in his head.. so his X is stalking him trying to get with him,his son cusses me out.. this is not the first time he has done this.. get's his entire family in an uproar when I have done nothing.. so now he is calling me and asking me to forgive him again.. I feel sick. I had a good reputation and one of respect in my town but he makes me out to be something I'm not. I never raise my voice,never bitch at him..never boss him around. I leave him to make his own mistake,grow as a person and be a human with free will. be responsible for his actions. I really don't want to look at him right now. his x beating on the door asking him if he is OK.. saying I abuse him. his friends and our co-workers all feeling sorry for him.. even now he called and tried to give me an ultimatum to work things out by not saying a word to him about what he has done..to just pretend like he didn't hurt me,like he hasn't betrayed me,lied about me.. I know he would do it again if he get's mad (doesn't get his way) he works,he is sweet most of the time. for 6 months everything is flowers and wild sex,nice fun relationship then out of the blue he get's mad and back stabs me again. I get hate mail from people in his family I have never met.. he loves to play the victim when HE is the verbal and emotional abuser. now he just wants it to all be OK and we snuggle and forget about it again while people think he is stupid for being with me. he did this. he ruins the rep of our marriage with his little tantrums. I'm sick of his poor little me shit. he is a giant.. a big loud giant. I am a quiet,caring child care worker and I take care of seniors it the center as a volunteer..take care of under privileged children. He is ruining my rep as a person and I'm pissed.. I don't think he will change even tho he admits to me he was wrong,he was lying,he was venting BS he was wrong to even be mad.. he would never do that behind my back to the same people he tells all that BS. what do I do with him ?
he is a big loud whiner beetch. I have gone thru this telling no one in my family or his,or even my best friend.
Eliza.you don't know what you are talking about. if that were true, it would be understandable.. my x left me for another woman after I stayed for my sons to have a father and gave up on the idea of having a daughter.
My husbands son who cussed at me is by his x..my son would never cuss me. He would be pissed if he saw how my current husband talks about me.
yes,I am venting,on an anonymous site. not to my family or his friends. I am looking for advice on how to make him understand marriage is between two people. because he would rather sweep it under the rug until next time and for me to continue to treat him as sweet as I always do with no consequences. I hate fighting and I won't fight like that.
not changing my story Eliza. I was hoping he would leave during fights,I felt no desire to work things out..there is much more to it.. his rick band and me home with the kids..his college I paid for and screwing me out of mine. I adore my sons but no one has the right to tell me I'm not going to have daughters also without talking to me about it first,that is very disrespectful.
but I do very strongly respect your take on the situation,even tho you don't understand it,I admire you standing up for my sons.
BTW. I am very good friends with that x,we have holiday dinners together even tho our son's are grown and we did a great job of co-parenting and raising incredible young men. we are still very close and he would tell you he was a selfish ass for what he did. He loves my daughters as well. treats them like nieces. didn't work out with the woman he left with and he has some regrets now.