My husband writes women from this amateur porn site all of the time, I don't know what to do about it. He says it is no big deal, but I don't believe him. I know he visits this southern charms thing a lot, especially when I'm out of the house. I've found emails from one of the girls calling herself Izzy and her website www.izzycharm.com on his computer. I feel bad snooping but I didn't know what else to do. We've been together almost 4 years and I just don't understand. The other night I caught him up at about 3am WATCHING this "lady" in some sort of camera site. He only does this when I am not around which means he's trying to hide it. What should I do? I try talking to him and telling him to stop but he says he's an adult. I don't want to lose my marriage over someone online who isn't "real". My friends say it isn't a big deal as long as he isn't stepping out on me. I think it is. Help 