My parents do not pay for anything? (Warning: huge rant)?

Kay

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Ever since I got a job last year, my parents have determined they can no longer afford to do anything for me like they used to. Like school shopping or a haircut. I pay for those things now, which I don't mind doing. But that's just the beginning. I graduate in June, and I wanted to go to an out of state school so badly, but my parents guilt tripped me into going to a local community college, because (my mom) couldn't handle her youngest moving out, because then she'd have no one left, so I basically felt so guilty that I gave up what I wanted to do to make her happy. So now I'm intending on going to a community college where I will commute. Thing is, I don't have a car. I had saved up every penny I made since starting my job to buy one, but when it came time that I could, an opportunity came up for me to go to England for a few weeks in a travel abroad program, and my parents again guilt tripped me into doing that, saying I shouldn't worry about a car because this is the opportunity of a lifetime. Granted, I had a really good time, but I came back completely broke, obviously, so now I'm back at square one. There is no way I will make enough by the end of summer to buy a car to commute to college. And they have told me multiple times that they can't afford a car or to even help me out AT ALL with college. I can't even get to my job a lot of the time because I don't have access to a car. I can't get a car if I can't work, I can't work without a car. It's a complete necessity. They will not give me a cent towards a car though, and say how I'm lucky just to be living under their roof and that should be enough. I'm only 17. I've been in honors classes my whole life, and private school for half of it, and now suddenly community college is too much to bear to help out with? It's like they could care less about me succeeding at all. They helped my older brother buy a car, and helped him pay out his college loans. But me? Nothing. At all. Just a "you're just an ungrateful bitch. We feed you, anything else is your problem." Then they get on me about not applying for scholarships yet, what do they care? It's not like it's less money for THEM to pay! It's even harder when every single one of my friends (and I'm not exaggerating) parents either bought them a car or agreed to pay at least half of their college expenses. I just feel completely alone in this battle, and all this does is discourage me from even bothering GOING to college. What should i do?
 
If you are working and earning money, why dont you get a loan to pay for your car. My parents never gave me any help either. You will definitely gain a better sense of achievement and the value of money by doing it yourself. If they dont want to help you, try not to dwell on it and just get on with it.
 
Gee, i'm sorry you're going through this,and i don't have a real good answer.

But i will say this,and i hope you will remember it -- guilt is for criminals and you're not one. You haven't done anything wrong and there is no reason for you to feel "guilty". Your life belongs to YOU, not your parents, so if you want to, and if you can figure out a way to go to the college of your dreams, by all means, do so!

Parents get over it when their nests empty... believe me i know.. i have two grown kids. They have their own lives, just like i did. And it's not fair or right to try and guilt trip a kid - it only holds them back.

So don't let your parents do that stuff.

take care of YOU - no one else will. believe me.
 
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