Native American Relationship Religion Problem?

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Well me and my girlfriend are both Native American but we both believe in different things, shes a Tradional Native American and I'm not, like she don't believe in Jesus but i do... MY QUESTION IS: HOW CAN WE WORK THIS OUT? Plus we have a baby, which religion should our baby have, Hers or Mines?

SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE!!! THANKS!!!
 
I think Sarah said it best, coming from an ancestral religion myself. The ways of a people should be handed down to the children. They aren't just a religion. Just something to pass the time for a little bit once a week. They are a way of life. On the other hand, they should have the opportunity to learn different ways and be able to choose their own path when they are old enough.
 
My husband is NAC and I am Traditional. For the most part, with us, it hasn't been too much of an issue considering that he is not very active in his beliefs. However, we have had some issues, especially considering many of my family were not very happy with me marrying him because of the spiritual issues- we had always been raised to stay away from it.

My initial plan was to raise them around both ways, and when they were older they could choose which way they want to go. But my opinion of that changed as our kids got older. They need to KNOW their beliefs, not a little of this a little of that, so they can live their life that way. As you probably already know (but your other answerers don't seem to) Native ways are not something you just go and do for an hour on Sundays. They are a way of life.

In both our ways, you are supposed to follow the ways of your father. (That may very well be different for you and your girlfriend since beliefs vary from tribe to tribe.) But, as I said, he's not very spiritual. He, at one point, told me I could take my oldest son to services (he has a different biological father) but I was not allowed to take my other sons. One day, he came home and I had my kids all ready to go and when he asked where we were going, I told him. I stood my ground and told him that kids need to be raised with beliefs and, considering he doesn't go to meetings, they were going to follow my ways. He hasn't said anything about it since.

My Oldest son was named Lakota way, my middle two were named in devotions, and my youngest is yet to be named. I stood my ground with the youngest as well and told him that since the boys follow my ways, he can be given a name in his language, but not in devotions or a meeting. He seems ok with it, yet has not done anything to move forward with a naming ceremony. So it looks like I might be setting that up too.

So, I guess, for you and your girlfriend, it should depend mostly on what you are both comfortable with. Take into consideration who's ways your Elders say the child should follow, as well as how active you both are in your "religions". Is one of you willing to "bend" and allow the child to follow the beliefs of the other? No matter what though, as a parent, it is your job to make sure your child is nurtured not only physically and emotionally, but also spiritually. One of you needs to make that commitment to make sure your child is raised on a spiritual path. It's great that you are both willing to step up.
 
u shud choose
and bring him in both religions

btw do native americans have big penises?
sorry had to ask
 
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