Need advice - HS mother spreading rumors about myself?

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Let me start off by saying that I usually don't care what people think, but this is a mother ... so that's different.

One of my friend told me yesterday randomly that his mother thinks I'm gay. (And no, I'm not.) Obviously I was like "really? weird." And he continues to say that "yes... i think he is." and that she wasn't confusing me with anyone else. I don't think I've even talked to her once. He told me that it was the way I acted or the sound of my voice (even though I've NEVER heard that one before but since some say I have a bit of an accent that might come off as a lisp?). He then continued to say that she mentioned it again in front of her friends "You know that guy ____? yeah he is gay." and they obviously told them that I've been dating my girlfriend for some time and she stated "he just hasn't come to terms with his sexuality yet."

Anyways, I'm pretty angry that a mother is saying these things. If it was a student, I wouldn't care, but this is an ADULT. I really don't want to make a big deal out of it or even speak to her, but I'm pissed that an adult who I don't know would do that. Need advice.
 
In the words of Oprah, write an angry letter to her explaining in detail what she is doing and why it is wrong, but don't send it.

In my words, write an angrier letter pointing out even more points why what she doing is rather incompetent. Then send it.
 
Wow, that's horrible.

She should know better then just saying stuff like this and spreading it around (you'd think that as an adult she's have the maturity & reasoning ability not to spread rumors about a person she's never talked to directly or make assumptions about that person's sexuality,especially telling her friends about her thinking your gay & saying that your only dating a girl as some sort of front.)

She has a lot of nerve (and sounds like she isn't very bright is she?)

You have every right to be outraged & offended. And maybe you should ( and mind you this may or may not improve your situation & this is only my opinion so please bear with me), make sure you have all the evidents you need against this woman & her claims & go tell your parents about it.

Again I'm not too sure if this will help or cause you more problems later on but this really needs to be stopped.Ans since when is it her right to make judgments on whether or not she thinks you might be trying to hide something & go boasting about it in front of others.

I don't think she has the brain cells to realize the damage she's doing to you & how something like this could grow dangerously out of hand.

And even if you were gay since when is it her right to start telling her friends or any other stranger things relating to your sexuality. That's your business & your business alone. She really should know better.

You should make a big deal about it because what you said is right,she's acting very much so out of line & someone needs to put her in her place.
 
Got a picture??



And fuck her...
if you're not gay, then who cares? just be like your mom is a milf and wanted to fuck me and i wouldnt so she is telling people im gay.
 
I think you should go talk to her personally. Be very calm about it, and just ask her to kindly please stop gossiping about what she thinks about your sexual orientation, that you don't appreciate it. I always think it's best to nip this kind of stuff in the bud, and be direct. Make sure you are calm. Role play it with a close friend, if you have to. Otherwise, if you are pretty young, or just can't do it, tell your mom and have her go have a talk with this neighbor. You seem very mature though & it seems to me that you can handle it.

I think her behavior is appalling. I have to say, I know people like her, and when they say stuff like that, I think they are stupid and hateful & I don't like them. I'm sure I'm not the only one like this. So that woman is probably not very well liked or trusted (I'm sure she's a terrible gossip). I'm 44, btw.

Sorry to hear you have to deal with this! But talking to the source of the problem is almost always best, imo.
 
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