For years I've been battling the game we call "dating". I'm 23 years old and I've only had three relationships. None of them lasted longer than five months. I'm a really mature person, I have a real job and make almost 40k a year, I drive a 06 Mustang GT, still going to school, and I really am a good guy. I met my first girlfriend at the age of 20. It lasted about three months. Before she traveled back to school I found out she still had feelings for another guy I questioned her about in the beginning. She would be seeing the guy at school. I had to cut it off because I knew she would cheat. She admitted she had feelings for him, but told me she really loved me. I didn't buy it. Four months later I met another girl. We fell deeply in love. I was always a good guy to her. The occasional flowers, cooked dinner, took her out, spent the night with her when she ran a dangerously high fever, the whole nine yards. She met a new guy at her work four months into things. I didn't have a problem with it because she had many guy friends. My feelings changed when they started hanging out frequently and he offered to start helping her financially. That's when I put my foot down and the angry arguments began. The guy would never look at me..I knew what he was up to. I told her to stop hanging around with him..but she just told me I was a jealous, insecure jerk. That entire month we argued and I always caught her lying. Eventually I walked in on her. She tried playing, "I still want you in my life" game but I told her to screw off. I was heart broken for a long time. About a year later she contacted me again apologizing. The guy she left me for was cheating on her and left her high and dry. She wanted me back in her life..and I was stupid and gave in. We built a friendship and I helped her financially and took her out to dinner a few times. She met a new guy and stopped talking to me. She still "Wanted me in her life" but didn't want to talk to me. I told her she was a filthy, rotten, **** in front of her friends and co workers. I was proud..she deserved it.
A few months later I met a new girl. We had a lot of fun with each other and had a lot in common. She always seemed distant but I gave her space. I did all of the good guy things for her. She was never affectionate..but I gave her space. After about four months she had to go back to school and told me it wasn't going to work because of our schedules. I told her I would manage to make it work. She would be only 100 miles away. Then she told me that she never developed any feelings and told me I was too nice. My jaw dropped in disgust. The night before she had to travel back to school she started crying on my shoulder and wanted to work things out. I was stupid and gave in. She told me she wanted to wait two weeks to ensure out schedules didn't conflict. I was fine with it. She came back two weeks later for the labor day holiday. We hung out everyday..never gave me a straight answer. She told me our schedules were the problem again. A few days after she went back I was offered a new shift with weekends off. I was excited. I called and told her that our schedules wouldn't conflict and I could see her on the weekends. She seemed cool with it..but she changed almost immediately. For a week she was distant, moody, and seemed annoyed until she called me and broke up with me again. I was completely disgusted with her. I told her I never wanted to speak to her again. For a few months she kept trying to contact me apologizing. I didn't give in. For a few months I've been trying to meet women and it hasn't gone well. I met a girl at my gym. She seemed interested at first. I asked her on a date and she didn't give me a straight answer until a few days before the date. She told me she had to work. She gave me her number eventually. I would text her and wouldn't get a response. Sometimes I would, but she wouldn't carry on the conversation. A few weeks ago she started dating a new guy and he already cheated on her. I haven't heard from her nor do I want to. I tried talking to several girls at my gym and they would just walk away after a couple of minutes or ignore me completely. My friend told me about his online dating success so I thought I'd try it. I've had my profile for almost two months and haven't received any messages or replies. My friend receives messages constantly despite the fact he was countless typo's and has a picture of himself with his shirt off flexing his muscle. I think to myself..really? Is that what girls really want?
At this point..I'm really confused. I'm a good guy and I have my life in order. At this point I'm beginning to think I'm just not meant for a relationship and I would live an easier life without one. Advice, thoughts, and suggestions are appreciated. Thank you for your time!
A few months later I met a new girl. We had a lot of fun with each other and had a lot in common. She always seemed distant but I gave her space. I did all of the good guy things for her. She was never affectionate..but I gave her space. After about four months she had to go back to school and told me it wasn't going to work because of our schedules. I told her I would manage to make it work. She would be only 100 miles away. Then she told me that she never developed any feelings and told me I was too nice. My jaw dropped in disgust. The night before she had to travel back to school she started crying on my shoulder and wanted to work things out. I was stupid and gave in. She told me she wanted to wait two weeks to ensure out schedules didn't conflict. I was fine with it. She came back two weeks later for the labor day holiday. We hung out everyday..never gave me a straight answer. She told me our schedules were the problem again. A few days after she went back I was offered a new shift with weekends off. I was excited. I called and told her that our schedules wouldn't conflict and I could see her on the weekends. She seemed cool with it..but she changed almost immediately. For a week she was distant, moody, and seemed annoyed until she called me and broke up with me again. I was completely disgusted with her. I told her I never wanted to speak to her again. For a few months she kept trying to contact me apologizing. I didn't give in. For a few months I've been trying to meet women and it hasn't gone well. I met a girl at my gym. She seemed interested at first. I asked her on a date and she didn't give me a straight answer until a few days before the date. She told me she had to work. She gave me her number eventually. I would text her and wouldn't get a response. Sometimes I would, but she wouldn't carry on the conversation. A few weeks ago she started dating a new guy and he already cheated on her. I haven't heard from her nor do I want to. I tried talking to several girls at my gym and they would just walk away after a couple of minutes or ignore me completely. My friend told me about his online dating success so I thought I'd try it. I've had my profile for almost two months and haven't received any messages or replies. My friend receives messages constantly despite the fact he was countless typo's and has a picture of himself with his shirt off flexing his muscle. I think to myself..really? Is that what girls really want?
At this point..I'm really confused. I'm a good guy and I have my life in order. At this point I'm beginning to think I'm just not meant for a relationship and I would live an easier life without one. Advice, thoughts, and suggestions are appreciated. Thank you for your time!