opinions needed, I'm really contemplating taking a small vacation without my wife.?

Jose

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I been on two deployment one to iraq (2009-2010) and a recent one to afghanistan but had to come home early due to injuries. this is the problem, in Jan 2010 when I returned from Iraq i brought my wife from another country to live with me, this was actually the first time we were living together, i knew the was the jealous type, but after the 1 month living together I was almost force to change my way of living my life I actually stop talking to most of my female friends and even some male friends every day, every week was a fight for jealousy and then on top of this I was taking therapy for PTSD either way she ended pregnant which for me was a little weird because for some reason my libido was extremely low, less than 200, and after her sixth month of pregnancy she was having many issues so the doctor ask if she had taking something to get pregnant she said no then the doctor ask me i said no but my wife said yes, she actually gave some pill and told that they were vitamins. so after month of problem with my wife i took stand started talking to my old friend, male and female. our daughter is now 1 year old and i feel like i need a vacation away from my wife, i recently sent her dawn to the caribbean to celebrate our daughter first year with her parent i could not go because of my job. I'm a very open minded person i do not have an issue with going out with her friends matter of the fact is that i even encourage her to do her but when she came back she started a fight because she believe the only reason why i told her to go out is because i was going out, but i did not, not because i was afraid but because i was working and honestly i cant afford to waste money going out.

oh and another thing, I'm not a saint before i deployed the first time i was doing what every young man would do have fun but since i came back from iraq i have change i don't go out no nothing, even my family says the my wife has suck the life out of me.

also she has use our daughter to manipulate me on more than one occasion, and honestly speaking i believe the only thing keeping os together is our daughter.

o and another thing she doesn't work, does not speak english, does have a license, the working issues i don't mind but i have bought her the Rosetta stone disc and even get her the the driver ed book and nothing, im really tire i could really used a hand paying the bills.

and people believe me when i say that i don want a vacation to cheat, if i want to cheat im going to do it whether im on vacation or not, im one phone call away but have not done it.
 
No way Jose.

Absence DOES NOT make the heart grow fonder. It helps make a person "act" single. Not good Jose.
 
You sound like you've been dealt a pretty rough hand from a pretty rough chick; does she still seem to love you despite all this? My brother had an Italian wife that was similar in some respects, along with the one kid, but their relationship ended up ending over it. Too many biased rules with someone who had no interest of changing. Maybe you could try counselling? It doesn't sound like you guys planned for kids (I may be wrong?) but at any rate, slipping you drugs doesn't seem cocher; I would have hit the roof about that for one thing. The jealousy thing needs to stop too - jealousy can be one of those ugly things that can eat your personality up entirely with the conspiracies and imagined scenarios and such...have you tried having your friends around for dinner on a few occasions, especially couples where the women can all hang out in one area and the guys in another? Maybe you could pre-arrange the women to drop a bit of a hint that she's overprotective of you and needs to let you have some space....

At any rate, it sounds like a holiday could do you very good...if shes just come back from one and the kid isn't a hassle, shes got no real card to play aside from pettyness. Just mind that if it comes to an argument, she may be the 'over the top' type that might not be there, or the kid for that matter, when you come back, so make sure this isnt too much of a surprise. Good luck at any rate
 
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