...ill ... why are other hands out? the care was very intense, and for 24/7 for almost 10 years... no one else helped or called to help but there were threats, accusations, criticisms, plenty of gossip based on assumptions...now that there is money available after the passing of the parents... all have their hands out and refuse to compensate even one cent to the caretaker... (one accusation is that the care given was poor...) well if i should not receive any compensation above my equal small inheritence because i did such a poor job then for those who did nothing not even a visit, an offer of help a phone call, what should they receive??? (no one else is receiving anything more than their equal share of the inheritence but to totally disregard the verbal witnessed though non specific ageement the cartaker had for the care of the parents to me is first disrespectful to the parents and unjust for the caretaker... oh yes by the way some family members also called adult protective services on me... and not for the physical care but for some monies that were involved...the agency found no problems the two times they were called on me...my lawyer laughed at that (that what should those receive for their non-care) and said "good point"...what is your opinion, a solution, a reasonable suggestion, an understanding of behavior i really find extremely shocking... the gossip has turned the inlaws into outlaws the siblings into enemies of others... many nasty issues have surfaced... some even refuse to reimbuse me for the taxes i personally paid out over the years on the land... parents please for the sake of your children after you pass make specific details regarding your care if you become ill before you pass so this mess we're experiencing wont ever be repeated... the amount of money each family member would get is not even enough to purchase a cheap new car... even the granchildren are fighting over who should get what... the wife is hitting the husband what a mess I put my own personal money into the care of our parents but that is even being refused me... did i make some poor decisions you bet but did i do it to cause problems no but i really needed to have about 3 or 4 people there to do all that was required...i started to keep records of the expenses etc but there were not enough hours in the day or strength in me to do that too... to care for a totally incapacitated mother and a father who wanted to help but was physically unable...CARETAKERS who are trained from their youth to be caretakers beware... you need wisdom before you bite off a whole lot more than you can chew and then put yourself in a position to be torn to pieces by those who do nothing to help their parents but think just because they are a child of their parent they are entitled to their "fair share" shocking, very pathetic but i choose to forgive them and i pray for them that light will be revealed to them ... and i certainly receive correction for the faults i have done too.