Playing games wtih a bf the only way to keep him interested?

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I have this horrid habit of pretending i am friends with a bunch of guys and then "going out" with them maybe once a month drinking or whatever. I dont actually have friends at all, save a few females n a male bestie who i dated and well, my bf is very jealous of. The moment i stop doing anything my bf is against, he loses interest in me and stops calling so much.

So then i start "going out" again, and he behaves. Its a horrible cycle of lying and making him feel insecure, but it works. Is there another way to keep him interested besides this? Dont just say, oh dont play games at all...it doesnt work.
we have a great sex life, 4 times a day when we hang out at his
 
If you have to play games to keep a man then you aren't dating the right type of guy. You just don't know any better because jerks are all that you know.

I hate to say this, but it sounds like you're dating creeps who are trying to take advantage of you. Odds are that you're the only one being taken advantage of here. I think you should try being alone for a while so you can sort yourself out. Until you take care of you, you're going to be stuck dating jerks like the one you're dating now.
 
Depending on what your boyfriend is against, you need to consider if what he is against are your own personal intrinsic values and life goals. Primarily, you need to start building some real social friendships so that you will provide yourself with a real opportunity to meet other people who may have much more to offer you socially as the person you really are and whom you will not have to play any games with. At that point, your boyfriend will realize that he will not only have to "behave" but he will actually have to contribute something to your relationship in addition to sex 4 times a day. Sex alone will never hold a relationship between two people together. You could try to interest him in some social activities outside of the bedroom by discussing some of the things he may be interested in. Find out who his friends are and who he really is when he is around his family and the people who matter to him who are not forced to play games with him to have his attention and friendship. If he does not step up and start socially contributing to your relationship, then you can be sure that he is only using you to gratify his sexual needs. At that point, you must stop playing his games and start sharing goals and values with him in the outside world unless all you ever want to be to him is a booty call. Best wishes.
 
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