Please help me with my hateful christian family?

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My christian family practices in psychological manipulation all the time. They practice ways of ignoring you to bring you to a 'breaking point', they regularly partake in character assasination. They tear others down and laugh at others. I have never had any of them apologize (but they have done their share of harm). Where is the christian in christian? Well they go to church, and pretty sure they tithe, and their pastors think they're good folks. Thank you
 
Ask them read and reread Matthew 7:5 - 7:12. Point out how many times they act in way opposite to these key scriptures.
 
sorry john.... no way to know when someone is talking with that big a chip on their shoulder. it's just hard to say when you're so one sided. i get that they upset you however this is hardly an unbiased question..... if you are too young to move out.... start saving and do so as soon as you turn 18.
 
do you live at home? I am sorry but you cannot control them. You might say why do you run down others? but then go to your room...do not argue...PRAY FOR THEM TO SEE their sins and yours...
 
Everyone who says they are Christians are not Christians.

On the other hand, people who don't want to hear the truth get offended by the truth.

If they are telling the truth, you are really mad at the "word of God", which is dangerous.

If they are telling lies, they are full of demons.

If a person refuses to listen to the truth with compassion, God said you resort to snatching them out of the fire. It is better for the demons in you to be angry for a moment, then for you to burn in hell because no one warned you!
 
Well that's pretty self-fish if they attack others for personal pleasure. You have to actually walk the walk not pretend like your walking the walk.

Read Philippians 2, in particular Phil. 2:3-4 and prepare an explanation of the passage for them. Give a general explanation, and don't specifically target them if your afraid of offending them.

"Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others."
 
Put up with it while you need to
Once you are able to move away and separate from your family do so.

if they refuse to accommodate your beliefs divorce them and live your own life.

I had to do this, it was sad but necessary.
 
no offense but your family has lost the true meaning of being a Christian.

They are what my Pastor would call a "Fake Christian" someone who goes to church says they are faithful to God yet they go against basically everything Jesus preached.

and dont let them fool you, a lot of us are actually civilized and know that being a Christian is helping people stand, (not by telling them they HAVE to believe in God but being nice and loving)
 
All people are not Christian who say they are Christian. Read from the Bible what Jesus is about and when you are follower of Jesus you will imitate Him in your life
 
Put up with it while you need to
Once you are able to move away and separate from your family do so.

if they refuse to accommodate your beliefs divorce them and live your own life.

I had to do this, it was sad but necessary.
 
They are way out of my league. I am an atheist, but I know of Christians who actually seem to think this is the right way to behave. I am not saying that just because I am an atheist and might be considered eager to believe things like this. I have noticed the behavior. I had thought it was an attempt to sort of get some kind of evil power over others. It is a control issue, and probably not just done by Christians, Although the people I know that do it happen to be Christians. It is such an interesting question. The ignoring is a power play. The bad-mouthing other people is also a power play. It seems like a brainwashing technique.
 
do you live at home? I am sorry but you cannot control them. You might say why do you run down others? but then go to your room...do not argue...PRAY FOR THEM TO SEE their sins and yours...
 
Well, I'm sorry they're like that, Christian or no Christian. The difference is that they can understand Christianity, and even act like it on the outside, but they're really not if that's the way they act towards you and anyone else. It's terrible that they represent it in such a horrible way, so please, don't think of Christianity as that. Those us of who are truly trying to ((live)) out Christianity, are desperately working to be servants, caring, kind, truthful, and most of all: loving. Really loving, where we will sacrifice all we have that Christ might be truly glorified. I'm truly sorry that your family does that period, and even more sorry that they're bringing the name of Christ down with them.

Sincerely,
NewPhilliesUnited
 
inform them that they should remember Jesus told us not to judge.
 
sorry john.... no way to know when someone is talking with that big a chip on their shoulder. it's just hard to say when you're so one sided. i get that they upset you however this is hardly an unbiased question..... if you are too young to move out.... start saving and do so as soon as you turn 18.
 
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