...over to talk to me about our future? my husband and i have been separated for over 2 months now. this is supposed to be a time where we both work on our issues, i have been doing the counseling, working on mine, while he has been constantly going out to bars, clubs, friends, the single life full steam ahead.
i am pregnant and he has not been there for me in anyway. just a phone call late at night about once a week or sometimes longer in between. i have only seen him once, and he seemed very uncomfortable around me, he gave me a peck on the lips and a friendship hug goodbye when he left.
he tells me he wants to stay married, but needs his space right now. i asked him if he just wanted to work things out because of the pregnancy and he said, no that there are other reasons for wanting to work things out. he said that he still calls me his wife and that he is looking forward to the baby and tells all of his friends...who by the way...want him to divorce, sabotage our relationship right and left...and they all cheat on their wives......well.....moving on...
i feel like i need more from him. i need emotional support, i feel like calling him and giving him the ultimatum to either come home or its done.
i cant handle feeling the humiliation and rejection from him during my pregnancy. he doesn't even care to go to any doctors appts with me, he doesnt ask me, and when i had preterm labor...he was at the bars with his friends getting drunk and didnt even care that i might need him to drive me back to the hospital. that devestated me. i sobbed and cried for hours and tried to settle myself down for the babys sake.
i'm so sick of this crap. how can he love me and claim to love my 7 year old who is not his biologically, then litterally drop out of our lives.
he doesnt even ask to visit my child who loves him with all of his heart and sees him like a dad.
i thought about sending him a text telling him i have a doctors appt next week, but i keep thinking what is the use. he will probably say that he has to work. it makes me sad that the baby isn't important to him.
i have been preparing for single motherhood again...preparing my home for the new baby.
i am debating whether to call him and demand he come over face to face so that i can tell him that i think this separation is ridiculous...and that he should come home or we should divorce because i cant handle his attitude of unconcern and i feel like he doesnt love me. i am in constant emotional pain.
i have a gut feeling that he wont come home, that he is screwing someone and that he loves his single life.....and that he wont be there for the baby, or help me.
i am so angry that i feel like he is just jackin me around in my mind and heart.
should i call him, (he might not even respond)......to see what his intentions are or is that just another desperate attempt to talk to him?
should i tell him about another doctors appt? or is it pointless?
thnk you.
i am pregnant and he has not been there for me in anyway. just a phone call late at night about once a week or sometimes longer in between. i have only seen him once, and he seemed very uncomfortable around me, he gave me a peck on the lips and a friendship hug goodbye when he left.
he tells me he wants to stay married, but needs his space right now. i asked him if he just wanted to work things out because of the pregnancy and he said, no that there are other reasons for wanting to work things out. he said that he still calls me his wife and that he is looking forward to the baby and tells all of his friends...who by the way...want him to divorce, sabotage our relationship right and left...and they all cheat on their wives......well.....moving on...
i feel like i need more from him. i need emotional support, i feel like calling him and giving him the ultimatum to either come home or its done.
i cant handle feeling the humiliation and rejection from him during my pregnancy. he doesn't even care to go to any doctors appts with me, he doesnt ask me, and when i had preterm labor...he was at the bars with his friends getting drunk and didnt even care that i might need him to drive me back to the hospital. that devestated me. i sobbed and cried for hours and tried to settle myself down for the babys sake.
i'm so sick of this crap. how can he love me and claim to love my 7 year old who is not his biologically, then litterally drop out of our lives.
he doesnt even ask to visit my child who loves him with all of his heart and sees him like a dad.
i thought about sending him a text telling him i have a doctors appt next week, but i keep thinking what is the use. he will probably say that he has to work. it makes me sad that the baby isn't important to him.
i have been preparing for single motherhood again...preparing my home for the new baby.
i am debating whether to call him and demand he come over face to face so that i can tell him that i think this separation is ridiculous...and that he should come home or we should divorce because i cant handle his attitude of unconcern and i feel like he doesnt love me. i am in constant emotional pain.
i have a gut feeling that he wont come home, that he is screwing someone and that he loves his single life.....and that he wont be there for the baby, or help me.
i am so angry that i feel like he is just jackin me around in my mind and heart.
should i call him, (he might not even respond)......to see what his intentions are or is that just another desperate attempt to talk to him?
should i tell him about another doctors appt? or is it pointless?
thnk you.