My older sister has recently asked me if she can borrow my car to attend her best friend's birthday bon fire at the beach this weekend. Problem is, she has no driver's license and is not covered by my insurance. She lost her license due to a failure to appear in court for a red light ticket, and hasn't done much to get it back since then (about 1-2 years i think).
She's asked me to drive my car for little errands before, and I'll sometimes let her do that because it's just around town, but now she's trying to make a habit out of using my car for her social life, caring more about her friend's feelings than my well being. I know that in CA, if she gets pulled over or in an accident, then my car gets impounded for 30 days (at best, plus a $1000 fine to get it out) and I get a MISDEMEANOR on my record.
What's worse is that she lives with me and my mother, so if I say no, I have to deal with her being mad and bitchy with me every single day until she decides to get over it (which could take a while). Also, her best friend is one of those "it's all about me" types, who will throw a hissy fit if everything in her life that day isnt perfect (something I don't want to deal with either)
I understand that's it's her best friend's birthday, and I want her to have fun, but I don't know if her fun is worth the risks which only I would be taking...
so what should I do? Take an ENORMOUS risk (one that could result in me probably losing my car for good and possibly my job) and let her go, or should I watch my own back and deal with my sister's disappointment?
HELP?
Other info:
~my sister kinda takes me for granted, and assumes that I'm gonna say yes even before she asks me for "favors" and gets pissed off and annoyed when things don't go her way.
~she asks me for favors a lot
~she swears she won't drink, and will go the speed limit and such (both I find hard to believe)
--not to mention that it's not just HER driving ability I need to consider...what if someone hits her? I'm pretty darn sure i'm still getting my car impounded and going to jail and all that fun stuff
She's asked me to drive my car for little errands before, and I'll sometimes let her do that because it's just around town, but now she's trying to make a habit out of using my car for her social life, caring more about her friend's feelings than my well being. I know that in CA, if she gets pulled over or in an accident, then my car gets impounded for 30 days (at best, plus a $1000 fine to get it out) and I get a MISDEMEANOR on my record.
What's worse is that she lives with me and my mother, so if I say no, I have to deal with her being mad and bitchy with me every single day until she decides to get over it (which could take a while). Also, her best friend is one of those "it's all about me" types, who will throw a hissy fit if everything in her life that day isnt perfect (something I don't want to deal with either)
I understand that's it's her best friend's birthday, and I want her to have fun, but I don't know if her fun is worth the risks which only I would be taking...
so what should I do? Take an ENORMOUS risk (one that could result in me probably losing my car for good and possibly my job) and let her go, or should I watch my own back and deal with my sister's disappointment?
HELP?
Other info:
~my sister kinda takes me for granted, and assumes that I'm gonna say yes even before she asks me for "favors" and gets pissed off and annoyed when things don't go her way.
~she asks me for favors a lot
~she swears she won't drink, and will go the speed limit and such (both I find hard to believe)
--not to mention that it's not just HER driving ability I need to consider...what if someone hits her? I'm pretty darn sure i'm still getting my car impounded and going to jail and all that fun stuff