Should I meet an engaged friend for coffee?

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Dime

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A friend who I haven't seen or spoken to in over a year emailed me out of the blue recently and said he's engaged and wants to meet up for coffee and catch up. He says that he is about to take a major step in life and wants to see me because I was a good friend when he was going through some tough times and that he's been thinking about me a lot lately.

Now our friendship was always platonic (some minor flirting), but I admit that I had a crush on him. Once he started dating his now-fiancee, I stopped all flirting. The reason for us not speaking in so long wasn't because of anything bad, life just got busy and I lost touch with him.

I'm hesitant to meet with him. I don't know if he told his fiancee he was meeting with a female friend, and I certainly don't want her to get the wrong idea or be jealous. I also am wondering what his intentions are.

Am I over-thinking things?
 
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PAMELAF

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The only way to find out is by going and having coffee. Let go of those feelings because 2 things can happen. 1. You can be the last freedom before he make that leap or 2 you can be the open to have problems. But like you said you guys are friends so be friends he might want to invite you to the wedding. Don't start planning things out in your head.
 
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Brandi

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You might be over-thinking.... but you have every right to... Maybe your opinion means allot to him. Maybe he has a lot of respect for you, and needs for you assure him that he is doing the right thing. You were right to back off when he started dating her... it let him focus, and now he is ready to take the next step with her. When you meet up with him.. tell him you would love to meet her, and that she must be great to get a great guy like him!
 
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JaylaKellen

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I don't think your over-thinking things, because I would think the same thing. If I were you, I would go with your gut feeling on this one.
 
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