I have the opportunity to pursue a very lucrative in a field that I've aspired to work in for a long time. However, I recently met the girl of my dreams, and we have been dating for 7 months. We have lived together for the last 4 months basically. She is pretty much everything I could want in another human being--she's gorgeous, competitive, smart, tall, conversational, funny, amazing to be around, open minded in food, loves travelling, loves staying in.
But now here is the problem--she is from China. And I am worried that if I go to New York to pursue this job and we do the long distance thing, after she finishes school--she won't feel that same bond, and will end up going back to China. Should I just get a job locally at a bank here in SC or should I make the jump and hope everything else will fall in place with the relationship?
I am the kind of guy who could be poor but be with the woman I love and be completely happy. In fact, a career in general is only a means to an end in my book---with the end being the ability to provide for my family which would be my entire motivation to work and aspire for greatness. With that said, I'm facing a bit of a conundrum. I think I'm leaning toward taking the career and hoping that she stays with me, but I know if I lose her, I'll never find a girl that is as perfect as her.
But now here is the problem--she is from China. And I am worried that if I go to New York to pursue this job and we do the long distance thing, after she finishes school--she won't feel that same bond, and will end up going back to China. Should I just get a job locally at a bank here in SC or should I make the jump and hope everything else will fall in place with the relationship?
I am the kind of guy who could be poor but be with the woman I love and be completely happy. In fact, a career in general is only a means to an end in my book---with the end being the ability to provide for my family which would be my entire motivation to work and aspire for greatness. With that said, I'm facing a bit of a conundrum. I think I'm leaning toward taking the career and hoping that she stays with me, but I know if I lose her, I'll never find a girl that is as perfect as her.