Should I tell my future wife of my past?

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AhmadAli

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please answer seriously:

Hi, i m from pakistan and engaed nw and going to wed in few months. My fiancee once asked me about my past . Should I tell her or no??

I had an affair with my ex Japanese gf, we were living together for many months while I was there for studying..I still love her and she loves me also but maybe we were not meant for each other. We are still in contact and talk some times.


I want to be honest with my future wify so I want to know what she will really feel and think about me if I tell her everything about my past. please comment..
she asked my about my past becuase once she saw a photo of mine with my ex gf. mybae she is jealous???
 
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PoopsieMellish

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Keep your past affair where it belongs and that is the past. If she asks about past girlfriends, just tell her that you had some dates, but SHE is the one you chose. Tell her the past is unimportant and concentrate on the future. Just do the same and not dig in her past too. Maybe she had a boyfriend and it didn't work out.
 
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Nowt

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kitnay badmash ho tum yar... Ghair larki k sath rehtay rahe ho aur ab ksii innocent larki ki zindagi kharab karnay lagay ho? Dont you feel GUILTY?!? Do you think a badmash person who has slept with na mehrum deserves a wife like her? Beta wake up and wash your face and look in the mirror. You dont deserve her!
 
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Naty

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Yes, it's important to have your past laid out before you get married. it's very important b/c if yur past comes back to bite you in the as*s it can cause bigger consquences. also, if she truly loves you, she will marry you regardless of your past.
 
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Ashley

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Um, I think she has every right to be jealous and you don't deserve to have her as your wife. In love with an ex girlfriend? Still contacting her? You aren't even married yet and already showing signs of infidelity.
 
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Angy

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Of course she is jealous. You are silly to think she wouldn't be.

If you're not over your Japanese ex-GF, then you need to NOT get married to your Pakistani fiancee.
 
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Kater2

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There are some things about your past that you don't need to share. This is NOT one of those things. Tell your fiancee or this one's going to come back and bite you in the ass. If you don't tell her you cheated and then she finds out, it's over anyway. And what if she finds out after the two of you have had children? Then the children will have to suffer through the divorce. TELL HER! And take an AIDS test, too.
 
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Shortie

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If you are still in love with your ex why are you engaged to this woman??? I say you don't say anything unless you want your wife to be insecure about your relationship. Nothing good comes of talking about the past. Why worry about the past when you are trying to build a future together. At the same time if you still have feelings for another why are faking yourself into a new relationship. But to each their own.
 
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Harleygrl

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First off, quit calling her your wify, that's just goofy. And second, don't marry her until you find out about the Japanese girlfriend. Maybe you are supposed to be with HER instead. How will you know, unless you find out? Better to find out now before marrying this other woman.
 
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ballsdeep

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None of her business. Don't fall for this trick. Women love to guilt guys into telling them everything about the past yet they will lie about theirs.

Ever hear about the rule of 3? That's where if a woman says she's only been with 5 men in her before you, you times that number by 3.......and that's usually just the minimum. Here in the US you actually need to times it by at least 5.
 
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xiaobaibai

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U better tell her. Be truthful to her.Let her know earlier. She should be able to to be more understanding. Tell her better than she found out the truth herself so she won't misunderstand the situation.
 
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v

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yes you should tell her, especially if she asked already. if she didnt ask i wouldnt worry about it. but if you are going to marry her then she deserves to know. she should have nothing to worry about if you have learned from your mistakes and are a different person now. If you dont tell her now you are risking her finding out later, which will make it worse.
 
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Unregistered

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Do NOT make the same mistake I have in the past. I we personally thinking that with marriage coming up I should lay everything on the table to ensure that no surprises would arise down the road. I have sat my future wife down and told her everything there is to know about me and my previous life prior to me meeting her. To my surprise, she accepted it and took it very well. It was a stone off my chest.... but not for long, as soon thereafter small remarks started to appear. One here, one there and then more and more to the point that now I am kicking myself in the ass for even mentioning anything about my past.

Take my word for it. DO NOT SAY ANYTHING.
 
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