...to help them? i'm allowing my little sister to live with me, rent-free, because she was abused + neglected as a child (long story). she is 20 now and has no-one else. i want to give her something of the "home" she never had. but she just seems to talk to me like i'm crap, messes the place up and does nothing to contribute to the housework. i kind of tolerate this because i know she's psychologically damaged and angry deep inside. am i abusing her again, in expecting her to "thank"/ reward/respect me for giving her a home? most people take it for granted that they have a home + family when they are growing up