Very true, but then who is most qualified to decide what is best for a child?
I was enrolled in public school from grades K-6 before I began homeschooling. I graduated from high school in May of 2004, and I am currently a college student at the University I wanted to attend! And I have to say, this year has been awesome for me. I never had a lack of socialization as a homeschooled child, and I don't think I've ever had socialization problems. (Though of course since it's from my own perspective you never know... every kid is shy at times ) I have a circle of friends at the University, and I keep in touch with my family back home. I still have all of my friends from highschool, and I see them nearly every weekend! (Including everyone from my dojang, where I continue to train.) I was a very active kid... I spent 10 years in 4-H (where I excelled, I was a Wisconsin 4-H delegate to Washington my last year), I had a part-time job for 3 years with great coworkers, interacted with everyone in my local homeschool group, and 3 years ago begain training in MA (which has been great for me.)
And yes. College was a big adjustment. A big one. But it was a big adjustment for just about every freshman I know. Being away from home (I live on campus), new situations, new people, rearranging all my priorities... it was tough. But I've pulled through! Honestly, in some ways home education was an advantage for me. Especially when it comes to scheduling my free-time. You don't spend a ton of time in class, a lot of 'study time' is your own perogative. No one stands over your shoulder and says "do your homework." I'm used to that. It's like a continuation for me in some ways. And are things different in college classes? Yes! But I think I did ok here... I made honors for my first semester (still finishing the second) and I just got inducted into a freshman honor society on campus. There are things I could have done better, but I'm learning to balance my home-life, my new friends and old ones, Martial Arts, and all of my classes. So in all honestly I'm fairly happy with how I'm doing. And I don't think I'm a unique example...
As far as socialization in high school goes... how many of you who are now adults still keep in touch with your old crowd from high school? You drift apart, things change. Most adults I know keep in touch with one or two... maybe a few more. Your priorities change. So what's the big deal about knowing a ton of people in H.S.? You don't have much in common with most of them anyway... I think it is really important to socialize in H.S., I just think there are more ways to do it than just public school. If you truly want to make an effort you will. And I do believe I read a remark about the opposite sex... ok. I didn't do a lot of dating in H.S., but I don't think I missed out on a lot by not doing it. I got 'asked out' quite a lot actually, but I just wasn't interested the whole 'go out two weeks, then have a messy breakup' thing. (Which a lot of my friends from public school were going through.) I now have a steady boyfriend who I trust and respects me. Dating was never a problem for me.
So far that's my experience as a home schooler. Just one person. And I'm not a perfect example, but I'm out there in the world doing the best I can with what I've been given. And I owe a lot to my parents for the firm educational foundation I can build whatever I want for my future on.