It's pretty much the same story, time and time again. Man and Woman divorce - woman NO longer has any control over the situation - because the situation is over/done-with/ finished/finite... so now, the only thing they can use as a control device - to punish and hurt the dad - is the child/children. I'm NOT saying all moms do this - but in many cases, those who do, are only doing it outta vengefullness, to get back at the dad (for whatever reason - sometimes none at all). IMHO - these "BITCH MOMS" should all burn in hell - along with TOT MOM - and OJ.
I'd wait until your son grows up before finalising your decision on your son's mother. Like I said, I'm out the other side now and look at my ex-wife with the upmost respect. She's raised two fantastic girls, both in uni and both have their heads firmly screwed on. She's done it on her own for the mostpart and has done a great job. Couldn't ask for more now
I have NO problem with her as a mother - it's the "F" word that goes after "mother" that bothers me... when both words are put together.
I believe she is doing a great job raising my son - but she's still a "psycho bitch" - and I'll never forgive her, for taking my son so far away from me.
Thing is, as painful as it is for you, she has every right to live where she wants and with whom. Maybe she needed the distance to get a fresh start. Can't of been easy for her to move. You need to concentrate on fixing the damage between the two of you to enable easier contact between your son and yourself. The break up of a marriage usually involves a lot of nasty stuff that's done & said in the heat of the moment and stirred up by lawyers that have a vested interest in making every divorce as messy as they can get it. You're taking it all personally and I doubt it's really meant to be.
My eldest, 28 now, was adopted by my ex/girlfriend new partner when I was little more than a kid myself. Never even got to see him grow up. I at least have some sort of relationship with him now. It's not ideal but little in life is.
I realize that life is unfair and unequal - but it still sucks - not being able to see my son on a regular basis... and the ex is fully responsible. Like I said before - the only reason she moved away so far, was to try and remove me from my son's life. She has a daughter from another marriage - and she also has very little involvement with her dad, if any at all... gee, I wonder why?
The reason we divorced is because she was having an affair with a client of her's - someone she was representing in a criminal case - who was involved with marijuana grow houses, and smoked the dope all day, every day - and the guy was 15 years younger than her... needless to say - it didn't end well.
Did I mention she is on her 5th marriage? TRUE. Like I've said previously - she is a "PSYCHO BITCH".
Well then, I have to ask. You said you have no problem with her as a mother - How good of a mother is she really when she is isolating all of her children from their dads who love them in the case of you, and want to be a positive influence in their lives? Can't be good for the kids. Even if she hates her exes, the children and their dads may have an excellent relationship. and the dads maybe great to their kids. My bro and his insane psycho freak gf is doing that to their daughter - and she will never know us as she grows up because she isolated not only her daughter but also my bro from his own family - and he is going along with it. As I said I love older kids - I would definitely have developed a great relationship with Holly as she got older.
He relocated a couple of weeks after his 4th B-Day.
The ex tried to sucker me into signing a very one sided agreement (to her benefit) - that would not allow me any over-nights with my son - then, her attorneys offered me one week a year. After declining both offers, with a chuckle and lots of sarcasm - we went to war. She hired one of the top "family law firms in the nation" and had the top partner, personally represent her, along with others. They put me through a 5+ hour - video and audio recorded - "GRILLING", by 2 attorneys and my ex - all sitting across me, with their suits, ties and shiney shoes - leather suit-cases, pads and golden pens... trying so extremely hard to intimidate me - unsuccessfully, I may add. The day before the ex's deposition - they came up with a better offer - not the best, but good enough. I get him for 3 weeks each summer + 1 week every other Christmas and every other spring break + half the time, if and whenever they visit Miami. In 2013, I start keeping him for 4 weeks each summer. Basically, what my attorney asked for at the start - but she only accepted after over-whelming my attorney with paperwork, documents, and other legal work... and sunpoenaed 16 of my family members and friends - for "DIVORCE COURT"? - All of which drove up my legal fees - and almost put me into bankruptcy - and GOD knows what else - had that been the case... totally unnecessary IMHO.
The ex pays for all travel expenses - and I also received a BIG break on child support payments, for allowing the move - without further litigation.
ANY OTHER SUGGESTIONS ON WHERE TO GO AND WHAT TO DO - ONCE HE ARRIVES? THANKS
Yes, he has a boy cousin that is his age - lives about 2 miles away - and my wife's brother is 7 y/o and lives 3 houses away. We will take one or both with us when we travel... and they hang out with each other everyday - at the pool, water park or beach. Fun times will not be lacking, upon his arrival, I assure you.
All those fancy park trips are great, But don't forget to have some down time together fishing or something...he really needs to know who pop is and what he is all about.