Well, we're going on six months now since my boyfriends mom left the house. She left to be with with her 22 yr. old boyfriend.. Might I add that she is 42. Well anyways she left her two kids with us. One is a girl who is 12 and a boy of 15. We can handle the 15 yr old boy, he gets straights A's in school. He is an honor roll student and always lets us know if he is going out. Which is usually next door to the school to skate. BUT!!!! its the 12 yr old girl that's driving us nuts. She does not listen, she talks back, she uses profanity for every conversation she has, she has no respect towards us or others, and she does not come straight from school. She demands to go out to party every weekend and loves to be around boys.
We have tried everything to make her understand that she is not 18 yrs old and that she does not make decisions for her self. My boyfriend has told his mom that she needs to gives us at LEAST temporary guardianship. But she says no! and that she's not doing anything wrong. If something happens to them we can only call a cell phone number and if its off its off, and we have no other way of communication with her. We don't know where she lives. so pretty much all the responsibility is ours.... But I can't have all that weight on my shoulders because I have two small kids of my own. whom I have to look after. I don't mind them being here its just that the 12 yr old girl is very rebellious and i can't handle her anymore... And now the big problem is that our savings are practically gone and my boyfriend can't get a job, so we have to ask for government help and we have to let the social worker that they live with us but we don't have guardianship. We hope that they won't take them into foster homes. We want to help but the mom is not cooperating. She say's she does not care that we can do whatever we want. She is not doing anything wrong. That she is living her life. Isn't that considered abandonment???? PLEASE HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am only 22yrs old and my boyfriend is 24. We need some advice......
Also because of all this our relationship between me and my boyfriend is not so good......... too much stress.....
We have tried everything to make her understand that she is not 18 yrs old and that she does not make decisions for her self. My boyfriend has told his mom that she needs to gives us at LEAST temporary guardianship. But she says no! and that she's not doing anything wrong. If something happens to them we can only call a cell phone number and if its off its off, and we have no other way of communication with her. We don't know where she lives. so pretty much all the responsibility is ours.... But I can't have all that weight on my shoulders because I have two small kids of my own. whom I have to look after. I don't mind them being here its just that the 12 yr old girl is very rebellious and i can't handle her anymore... And now the big problem is that our savings are practically gone and my boyfriend can't get a job, so we have to ask for government help and we have to let the social worker that they live with us but we don't have guardianship. We hope that they won't take them into foster homes. We want to help but the mom is not cooperating. She say's she does not care that we can do whatever we want. She is not doing anything wrong. That she is living her life. Isn't that considered abandonment???? PLEASE HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am only 22yrs old and my boyfriend is 24. We need some advice......
Also because of all this our relationship between me and my boyfriend is not so good......... too much stress.....