Alright first off, if you're going to say anything negative or anything please do not post in here I really need serious answers.
Anyways, I do not smoke or drink at all. It's just not my thing. So my girlfriend who I love a lot does smoke. She asks if I mind and I told her early on that I didn't care if she does but I don't like it at all and wish she didn't and I don't feel like I have the right to tell her not to smoke. She is her own person.
For a while now we will have some arguments about her smoking. It came to a point where she said she would only have up to 5 a day and that every time before she would smoke she would text me and tell me that she was or she would tell me on the phone. Which she said she would do.
There has been times where she forgot to tell me, and even a time where she had more than 5 and I got mad about that cause she said she would only have 5 and never smoke more than 5. She made this up not me I didn't say hey lets do this, she brought it up and i liked the idea it was a compromise.
So, today till Sunday she is at the lake with her dad and other people, and I asked her if she was going to smoke or drink and she said no cause she knows I wouldn't like it. I asked why do you say that now about smoking cigs when you know I don't like it to begin with, and she said because she forgot her pack at home so I was like alright. Then we were talking on the phone and she said how she got a cig and I got pissed cause I felt like I got lied to, when she said she wouldn't but did.
Do you think I am overreacting? I think I may be, but I honestly can't seem to help myself. I try to just ignore it when she smokes, but then it's like a switch gets flipped and as she put it I don't get mad or pissed but I get like defensive about it, and I hate arguing with her. I don't like fighting, drama, I am a very chill person to be honest. I just don't know what to do.
Does anyone have any advice for me? Normally I don't ask questions on here cause I deal with all my situations by myself and not really talk to other people about them, but I would really like some peoples input here on what to do, or to help with with my situation here. I love her a lot, I know I am going to be spending the rest of my life with her. She is truly amazing. She makes me feel amazing, and I have never felt like this before (I know a lot of people say that, but I really mean it) I would do anything for her, I am really grateful to have her in my life she seriously made me a better person as well from who I used to be. I just really need some advice here so any would be really appreciated. Sorry how this was so long.
She knows I don't like that and I have told her that I don't want something to happen to her like get cancer or whatever it's just case I really care for her so she knows, I am just kinda stuck here. I have no plans on leaving her ever, plus it be a dumb reason to break up with someone just cause they smoke ya know?
Anyways, I do not smoke or drink at all. It's just not my thing. So my girlfriend who I love a lot does smoke. She asks if I mind and I told her early on that I didn't care if she does but I don't like it at all and wish she didn't and I don't feel like I have the right to tell her not to smoke. She is her own person.
For a while now we will have some arguments about her smoking. It came to a point where she said she would only have up to 5 a day and that every time before she would smoke she would text me and tell me that she was or she would tell me on the phone. Which she said she would do.
There has been times where she forgot to tell me, and even a time where she had more than 5 and I got mad about that cause she said she would only have 5 and never smoke more than 5. She made this up not me I didn't say hey lets do this, she brought it up and i liked the idea it was a compromise.
So, today till Sunday she is at the lake with her dad and other people, and I asked her if she was going to smoke or drink and she said no cause she knows I wouldn't like it. I asked why do you say that now about smoking cigs when you know I don't like it to begin with, and she said because she forgot her pack at home so I was like alright. Then we were talking on the phone and she said how she got a cig and I got pissed cause I felt like I got lied to, when she said she wouldn't but did.
Do you think I am overreacting? I think I may be, but I honestly can't seem to help myself. I try to just ignore it when she smokes, but then it's like a switch gets flipped and as she put it I don't get mad or pissed but I get like defensive about it, and I hate arguing with her. I don't like fighting, drama, I am a very chill person to be honest. I just don't know what to do.
Does anyone have any advice for me? Normally I don't ask questions on here cause I deal with all my situations by myself and not really talk to other people about them, but I would really like some peoples input here on what to do, or to help with with my situation here. I love her a lot, I know I am going to be spending the rest of my life with her. She is truly amazing. She makes me feel amazing, and I have never felt like this before (I know a lot of people say that, but I really mean it) I would do anything for her, I am really grateful to have her in my life she seriously made me a better person as well from who I used to be. I just really need some advice here so any would be really appreciated. Sorry how this was so long.
She knows I don't like that and I have told her that I don't want something to happen to her like get cancer or whatever it's just case I really care for her so she knows, I am just kinda stuck here. I have no plans on leaving her ever, plus it be a dumb reason to break up with someone just cause they smoke ya know?