Why are people so prudish about discussing their sexual histories? Do...

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...they want STD's? I saw a rash of questions from a few hours ago about discussing your sexual history with a potential partner. I was shocked that so many of the answers said "It's nobody's business" or "It's too personal" or "It's too invasive."

What is wrong with you people? Are you trying to get an STD? Are you trying to get AIDS? If you don't want to talk about sexual history, does that mean you also don't want to talk about birth control and safe sex? Seriously people, if you can't honestly tell your potential partner "I've had x number of partners, I have/have not had such-and-such STD, and I have/have not been pregnant," then you have no business having sex!

So what is your deal? Don't you realize that your LIFE could be at stake? Sure, you don't have to give names, dates, and positions. But if you can't have a healthy discussion about your sexual history, then how can you ever hope to build a relationship? Or keep yourself safe from STD's?
 
Test results showing my partners had no std's or viruses was all I needed. I just don't feel it necessary to get into numbers or who did what with whom. It's in the past. Let sleeping dogs lie.
 
Anyone can lie about their history. I wouldn't stake my life on someone elses say so.

Besides, someone can sleep with a thousand people & be clean as a whistle. Someone else can sleep with ONE person & end up HIV positive.

Condoms, blood testing, abstinence and/or monogamy are better measures to stay safe than some gossip session.
 
You are absolutely right.

At any rate, I thought the point of those posts, perhaps not well expressed, was to not accept judgmentalism from prospective partners. As Tricky Dick Nixon might say "I am not a slut!"
 
Most people are too busy having fun to think about the future. They get upset at people who do. That's where all this "My sexual past shouldn't matter! OMG you're so sexist you're stuck in the '50s you pig!" stuff comes from.

A general rule of thumb to follow is if a woman calls you a pig, chances are you're doing something responsible.
 
Good points. Though we don't need every nit-picking detail; we do need enough information to look out for ourselves. Years ago, a potential partner asked me to take a STD test before we got intimate.At first I felt offended that he thought I was promiscuous.

On further reflection, I realized he was being wise. As adults, we both had more than one partner in our lives. It just takes one person that's infected to pass it on.

Good for him for asking.
 
i think that a trip to the free clinic for STD testing should be at the very beginning of every relationship
 
I don't think it even needs to be life or death like that. Everyone has a right to personal preferences in what they like/don't like in a partner. If your gf or bf has been with too many, that's your perogative to break up with them I guess.

I think the one's who said it's too personal are either really slutty or control freaks. They try to tell themselves it's guys insecuirity and not their bad decisions that are casuing the problems!
 
I would never have sex with a new guy without first discussing things like that. It's not a big deal, and it can save you a LOT of trouble-- maybe even your life. I actually know a guy who got HIV from another boy. When the guy I knew asked his partner if he'd known, he said something to the effect of, "Yes, but I was afraid to just come out and say it, and you never asked." Some people are afraid to just come out and say things like that, and sometimes just asking will push them to tell you. Don't just expect your partner to be responsible and concerned with your health. It's YOUR responsibility to ask. God, people can be so crazy, right?
 
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