Why do working women complain so much about men not doing chores ?

[Cassius]

Feminism isnt mens fault, men were happy with women staying home, men never wanted women to go out and work, so why the complaining that men do not do "their share" of the chores although the wife works just as much ? Because they were not able to stop feminism ?
Dior, how is it fair ? If the woman wants to go out and work, why should the man burdened with chores ?

 

[iris054]

Fifty years ago employers paid men enough money that they could support their families. Today most women who work do so out of financial necessity. Often, even with both parents working there is still not enough money. People can have any type of arrangement they agree to in their marriages. But in most families it is assumed to be fair that the work be tallied up and split between the able bodied in the household. It is not considered right that one person, whether the male or the female, should do the lion's share of the work. But hey, if you want a woman who wants to stay home, find one. They are out there. You'd just better be able to make darned good money or you're going to be p*ss poor.

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[dior]

ofcouse men are happy with women staying home, they get to come home to a clean house, dinner on the table, and no other home responsibilities! WHile some women were happy with staying home, others wanted to go out an get a career - feminism gave women a choice! You are acting line its is the womans natural role to be a housewife

When both parents work a full time career, it is only fair that each person does thier fair share of the chores around the house. It should be split down the middle about 50/50. If one person doesnt work then obviously that person would do more chores cause they have more time on their hands.

 

[msesophisticate]

Well, you can't have it both ways, dear. Now, if you could make enough money to keep your family comfortable (like your father could), your wife would gladly stay home and take care of your children full time. Now, when men can not afford to do that nowadays, their wives are forced to share in the family bread-winning. So, when she works as long and as hard as you do every day, why does she also have to come home and start working on ALL the chores, when you are just sitting there? Isn't she the love of your life? Doesn't she deserve some consideration after a hard day of work? And isn't it also your business to keep your family healthy and happy? Why is it her only concern? Now, it is not feminism that created that impossible situation in your house. It is your inability to be a reliable/compassionate partner your wife had married so many years ago. BTW, my own husband of 20 years has no problem sharing chores. He appreciates my help with financial burden, and does everything he can to make it easier on me. Actually, we do that for each other simply because we are in love.

 

[MikeHammer]

Back in the late seventies, my mother applied for a job, and got one. Feminism wasn't necessary, it's just that some people wanted a gold star for doing what everyone else was doing.

The person who spends all day at home, should do the chores. Most houses can be cleaned/maintained in less than two hours. A regular job is 8 hours. No one wants to come home from work to do more work.

I remember about two years ago, when I had a live-in girlfriend. It was a Friday night, and I was at the bar after work with some friends, when I got a call from her. She was to host a party at our place, in two hours, but she was going to be working an extra hour and a half of overtime at her job. The apartment was a mess. Not dirty, just untidy. I rushed home and cleaned the place up for her, and was back at the bar in time for the fifth round. She got home, set out the food, and everything went well for her. THAT is teamwork. THAT is what people should be doing for each other.

 

[Stack]

If both work and only one does chores man or woman, then it is one sided.
If you make a mess then be respectful to others around you and clean it up.

 

[Fereshte]

If a man doesn't want to marry a working woman, or a woman who wants a career, he doesn't have to. He just has to work harder, put in more hours, spend less time with his wife and family, and have less luxuries or vacation time. That way he can be the main provider and marry a woman who wants to be a house wife.

MOST men don't want to do this, however. A good deal of men are glad for the extra financial support and independence in their women.

 

[mMissJ]

I read this and it's sad how twisted our society is these days. Sometimes I wish I could go back to the 1940's and just see how everything seemed so simple and not chaotic.

 

[BlueB]

You must have a lot of money if you think that women do not need to work. The majority of couples have to work. I thought everyone knew that. And it's got nothing to do with feminism - it's a matter of financial common sense. So why can't both share the chores? I'd be happy with him doing just a few chores, but at least contributing.

 

[DSF1]

It isn't wrong for women to do household chores, it is wrong if the husband is forcing or coercing his wife to do chores and not have a career or if the husband doesn't help.

 

[llllll1]

Because it's really hard having to clean the whole house on top of working. My mom works SO much, and I'm unemployed and home for the time being, going to school and more stressed than her though. She has always cleaned up after my messes, but lately I've been feeling really guilty about not helping more around the house. I don't know why some men don't feel guilty about this.

I read an article talking about senior men in the UK being really lonely. It was so sad. The one man's son was thinking about paying someone to take him out because the only thing he looks forward to every day is getting his daily phone call when someone asks him if he's taken his meds.

He also mentioned how much he misses his wife, who is dead now. He said that he regrets not helping her more around the house because it's a lot of work, and he said he took her for granted.

 

[20022006]

Because women who absolutely must work (aesthetically challenged) are bitter? haha

It's always interesting how feminists say they've given women a choice. What choice do men have? Is a girl going to look forward someday to marrying a househusband? I don't think so. Men can either work, work, or work in a relationship. Females can do a variety of things.