We've had a rough past but she's made it very clear she wants to make a life with me. She's even looking for jobs and housing in my area (we're currently 2hrs long distance) and she often makes plans with me, like little vacations or outings months in advance.
The problem is, almost every time something starts an argument, even if it's a small thing, she blows up and breaks up with me. It usually starts small and not really an argument at all, but then she'll accuse me of turning her into the bad guy and insists on telling me she doesn't have a problem before saying that she doesn't feel loved or happy or that I don't do enough then leaves me. She blocks my phone numbers, facebook, and email for a few days then comes back acting like everythings normal but still blames me for doing something wrong.
She has been abusive and manipulative in the past, I have seen a counselor about her who called her the same. She brings it up often saying "I'm not manipulative! You always call me manipulative and abusive! I'm not the one with a problem" when in actuality I've only said it once months ago. Even if the argument is over something completely different she'll bring it up. It's like no matter what we talk about she'll bring random things up, even if I don't say anything back she'll end up working herself into a rage and dumping me.
I love this girl to death. I probably won't stay with her much longer because of this attitude, but I am curious. Why do you think she acts this way? I've always tried my best to be supportive and kind and loving. Even when I KNOW I'm being loving she says I'm not.
The problem is, almost every time something starts an argument, even if it's a small thing, she blows up and breaks up with me. It usually starts small and not really an argument at all, but then she'll accuse me of turning her into the bad guy and insists on telling me she doesn't have a problem before saying that she doesn't feel loved or happy or that I don't do enough then leaves me. She blocks my phone numbers, facebook, and email for a few days then comes back acting like everythings normal but still blames me for doing something wrong.
She has been abusive and manipulative in the past, I have seen a counselor about her who called her the same. She brings it up often saying "I'm not manipulative! You always call me manipulative and abusive! I'm not the one with a problem" when in actuality I've only said it once months ago. Even if the argument is over something completely different she'll bring it up. It's like no matter what we talk about she'll bring random things up, even if I don't say anything back she'll end up working herself into a rage and dumping me.
I love this girl to death. I probably won't stay with her much longer because of this attitude, but I am curious. Why do you think she acts this way? I've always tried my best to be supportive and kind and loving. Even when I KNOW I'm being loving she says I'm not.
