Why is it so hard to meet friends as an adult?

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I just don't get what Im doing wrong here, Examples: Gone to bars alone. concerts. book stores, talk to a few people never go the next step to exchanging #'s to meet up n future, I joined Meet up.com 2 yrs ago same thing joined several groups seen same people yet no friendships developed, I go to church for my religion talked to a few people that's it, I talk to strangers all the time on the street, grocery store, record store, Get this I met a girl at a bar she Says"its so hard to meet a single girl in the city" we exchanged #'s she became a flake would text me then not text me I gave up.

Im 27 attractive, single alone n lonely. Ive prayed for change I have even tried to change my social status, joined facebook n Friend many from my past but everyone is busy or in a relationship.
What is the magic answer are you in the same boat?
 
Because adults don't need friends. They need something to work towards. No I'm joking that was mean. Maybe your too hot I don't know. Not really in the same boat I'm 21 as your grow older you naturally become more and more alone that's just the way it is. I have friends who I'm really close with but not a lot of friends.

Once high school's over it's over. +I'm always so focused on my work as an artist a musician, I honestly don't even make time for my friends.
I'm probably a like the girl who is a flake that you met, you'de hate me I wouldn't answer my phone or I'd be too lazy to chill and I'm not Christian.

But I think your going about making friends the wrong way. and you have to be careful as well not to be too friendly. Bars aren't a place to make friends. You need to make friends through your already existing friends assuming you have at least one friend....and stop trying to so hard,

Love is like a butterfly it fleas when you chase it, but if you don't chase it may come to you ;)

I sincerely hope I'm helping....
 
I hate to agree with the other answerer, but I think he is right - I think as we get older, it is less about friends and more about family. And those that become new family, sisters-in-law, mother-in-law, etc. become the only real friends you'll have, unless you managed to keep a very close friend through college/high school.

Work associates could be considered friends, but many do not want to hang out after work, just go out to lunch and such. I think you are trying all the right things, but the sad reality is that a lot of adults are focused solely on their job and their family.

Try OKCupid, and maybe join a forum for a hobby you are interested in? Internet friends are better than none at all. Continue what you are doing, maybe you'll find someone like you? Also, maybe try posting an ad on craigslist or something similar looking for friendship.
 
you should join an recreational sports league like this one
http://www.urbanrec.ca/

I dont know where u live, but try to find a league or something similar to that one, in your area I am sure there are.

I am 20 yrs old, and joined that league because I just wanted to play and it was cheap, to my dismay sorta lol, i met many adults around 28- 35, who were there to socialize, not really to play soccer.

I learned that even adults need friends, at least one or two, and to have fun once in awhile.
 
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