Person I know? My Wife's Nip picking and complaining is pushing me away from wanting to continue our marriage. I know it sounds bizarre, yet it's killing me on a daily basis. My wife seems to have become like this with me, and me only, there is one other friend she is like this too, and I'm wondering if it's only going to get worse with her age.. She's currently 42.. We got married when she was 35, and the problem just seems to keep getting worse as time goes on.. My wife will overlook big positive things, and locate the little negative things.. Here is a perfect example.. For the past 3 years, she has wanted me to convert our basement into a theater.. Now a job like that takes time, lots of high expense involved... Last week, I shocked her when she came home. I had 3 of my friends from work come over and help me hook up a new 65 Inch TV, New Surround sound, I put Theater seats in the basement, the entire project cost me around 6k, and 8 hours of man power.. My wife has been talking about this for years and I set it up just the way she wanted, color by color.. When she walks in and see's it, the first thing she points out is " There are Foot prints everywhere!", there's finger prints all over the table.. Now I have to clean this stuff up!!".. It's like why doesn't she just spit in my face, she's focusing on something so minor, after I Sweat blood and tears to get this job done? Then after we clean up the slight mess, she just says " Well it's real nice, I'm going to bed ok"?..
Last year she talked all year about getting a " Tahoe" Suv.. So for Christmas, I have a Tahoe delievered, the exact same color combo she wanted from the dealer, with a big red bow on it.. What does she do? Take the keys, go fill up the tank, and goes to pick up her girlfriend and ride around.. I went to bed because I was tired, the next day, she' just acts like the cars been here all along.. I had to Pry information and thoughts out of her about the new car, it's like she holds back on purpose just to get at me.. I'm like " How's the Car!".. She's like " Good....." i'm like???? OK So that's it? She says. " What do you want me to say"? I'm like... " How about a little excitement or enthusiasm" I just don't understand her.. She's constantly downplaying the things I do for us and our family.. I just feel so unappreciated. And it's only like this with me and me only, Her uncle sent her a Birthday card and when we saw him she was giving him hugs' and kisses thanking him telling him how it made her day.. Then she went and bought a thank you card and mailed it to him.. I almost feel like it's a game she plays with me.
Last year she talked all year about getting a " Tahoe" Suv.. So for Christmas, I have a Tahoe delievered, the exact same color combo she wanted from the dealer, with a big red bow on it.. What does she do? Take the keys, go fill up the tank, and goes to pick up her girlfriend and ride around.. I went to bed because I was tired, the next day, she' just acts like the cars been here all along.. I had to Pry information and thoughts out of her about the new car, it's like she holds back on purpose just to get at me.. I'm like " How's the Car!".. She's like " Good....." i'm like???? OK So that's it? She says. " What do you want me to say"? I'm like... " How about a little excitement or enthusiasm" I just don't understand her.. She's constantly downplaying the things I do for us and our family.. I just feel so unappreciated. And it's only like this with me and me only, Her uncle sent her a Birthday card and when we saw him she was giving him hugs' and kisses thanking him telling him how it made her day.. Then she went and bought a thank you card and mailed it to him.. I almost feel like it's a game she plays with me.