Ever since I have known my wife (5+ years) she has really disliked her jobs, and makes it known quite often. At first I tried to be understanding and allow her to vent hoping she would figure it out. I understand that her jobs have had a lot of negative qualities, but I am getting tired of hearing her complain about them and how she feels trapped. So should I continue to listen and try to be understanding to her, hoping she gets out of her rut? Or would it be better if I tell her that I am tired of listening to her about this topic and that she needs to dedicate herself to figuring it out or she can find someone else to complain to?
I feel I have been extremely supportive of her. I have helped her try to find another job, even spending several nights writing her resume and cover letters practically for her. It seems the aspects of her job she hates switch all the time, starting with the technical aspect of her job, then company policies, her 45 minute drive, then her coworkers and management. She does spend some time (not enough imo) looking every few weeks, but she works in a field where the jobs are not plentiful. However, that doesn't seem to matter because she isn't thrilled about the field anyways. She just doesn't seem to have any idea what she wants to do in life career-wise, and seems to be unwilling to look for it. She certainly does not want to go back to school, nor quit and try something completely different. Finally, leaving her is not an option. She brings so much more to me than just this. I just hate this aspect of our relationship but I love her.
I feel I have been extremely supportive of her. I have helped her try to find another job, even spending several nights writing her resume and cover letters practically for her. It seems the aspects of her job she hates switch all the time, starting with the technical aspect of her job, then company policies, her 45 minute drive, then her coworkers and management. She does spend some time (not enough imo) looking every few weeks, but she works in a field where the jobs are not plentiful. However, that doesn't seem to matter because she isn't thrilled about the field anyways. She just doesn't seem to have any idea what she wants to do in life career-wise, and seems to be unwilling to look for it. She certainly does not want to go back to school, nor quit and try something completely different. Finally, leaving her is not an option. She brings so much more to me than just this. I just hate this aspect of our relationship but I love her.