Wife is being unreasonable - Going to lose vacation deposit?

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My wife's grandfather, who raised her from birth passed away yesterday. While I am upset, I am not a believer in big funerals. His funeral is on Thursday. Unfortunately my wife and I were planning a second honeymoon in Hawaii for Christmas. Our flight leaves on Wednesday.

My wife want to go to the funeral. I think going would be a waste of a good trip.

What should I say to her to make her understand that she is being unreasonable and selfish during this time of fiscal restraint?
 
Oh, you can't. She feels deeply for him, so I would split the difference and you go along, telling her that you cannot piss off $3000 or however much it cost
 
As I read your little query, the words unreasonable and selfish did come to mind. But, not about your wife. Hint hint. How the hell can you even consider putting vacation time as a priority over the grief your wife must be going through? You need to apologize to her for even thinking a thing like that.
 
Because you seem too cruel to be true im guessing you are a troll... but anyway...
Since when is this about you? Funerals are for closure for the loved ones that feel they need it. If she feels she needs to go, rather living in a life time of regret, let her... she sounds like she can do better than you.
 
The grandfather who raised her as a child is a very close relative.

Do you think she would have fun on your second honeymoon while she is thinking of her grandfather and being rather sad?

Better to reschedule your holiday for a happier time, even if you lose the deposit.. even in these times of fiscal restraint, the heart rules, not the hip pocket.

Be kind to your wife and make it easy for her to attend the funeral.
Good luck
Happy Holidays
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