My mom went to Las Vegas, Monterey, London, and France (those are just a few) places when I was a kid and left my brother and I home with my grandparents. As I got older (teens), I resented her more and more for taking trips to places like London, where I said many times that I wanted to go. Even when I was 16, I could understand why taking an 8 year old to London would be pointless, but a 16 year old could appreciate it so much more.
Now, at 26 and with a baby of my own, I hear stories from my husband and In-laws about all the trips my in-laws took on cruises, the Caribbean and so forth without their kids (as kids and teens, forget about now).
Again, I can understand how it would be a waste of money to pay for kids to go on some trips that they won't remember or appreciate, but overall, I'm just afraid i'll feel too guilty if I did it to my kids. Remembering how much I still resent my mom for leaving me behind on her trips; I don't want my kids resenting me. I'm not trying to be "the cool mom" or anything special; I have every intention of disciplining and raising my kids to hopefully be respectful and responsible adults. I don't want to spoil them, but I also want to give them some fun experiences and memories like I hear from my husband. At the same time, I also want to be able to have a bit of one-on-one, alone time with my husband, and maybe a trip to Vegas or Hawaii without the kids at some point in the next 20 years...I just can't help but think of my feelings towards my mom's action and feel guilty at the thought of doing that to them.
Would you take a trip without your kids?
Now, at 26 and with a baby of my own, I hear stories from my husband and In-laws about all the trips my in-laws took on cruises, the Caribbean and so forth without their kids (as kids and teens, forget about now).
Again, I can understand how it would be a waste of money to pay for kids to go on some trips that they won't remember or appreciate, but overall, I'm just afraid i'll feel too guilty if I did it to my kids. Remembering how much I still resent my mom for leaving me behind on her trips; I don't want my kids resenting me. I'm not trying to be "the cool mom" or anything special; I have every intention of disciplining and raising my kids to hopefully be respectful and responsible adults. I don't want to spoil them, but I also want to give them some fun experiences and memories like I hear from my husband. At the same time, I also want to be able to have a bit of one-on-one, alone time with my husband, and maybe a trip to Vegas or Hawaii without the kids at some point in the next 20 years...I just can't help but think of my feelings towards my mom's action and feel guilty at the thought of doing that to them.
Would you take a trip without your kids?