I am 25 years old. GAY. Ever since, I got sexual attractions from the age of 13, I always got attracted to men. Never once to women.
When I was 6 years old, when I visited my grand-uncle's home, he groped my male sexual organ for for some 1 to 2 minutes. I was NOT sexually aroused as I was very young. But I felt that it was a strange feeling.
The same thing happened at the age of 9. When my family visited his home, he touched me for 2 minutes. But he did that very jokingly. Like, he would grab my part from under the table while having lunch, touching it when playing games like hide& seek, chess etc..I took it as a fun. Again, I was NOT sexually aroused as I was young, but it was a strange feeling. But this time I told my parents and they never talked to my grand-uncle since then. I also didnt meet him since then.
Both incidents happened when I was 6 and 9 years old. It was at the AGE 13, I actually started getting sexual attractions. The attraction was always towards men. Just 2 years back, I told my parents (who are very very devout christians) that I am gay. They stand firm in their opinion that it was my grand-uncle's touch that made me gay. They deny that I was born gay. I am confused what caused it
Points to note:
1)There was 4 years gap between my second incident with my grand-uncle and me getting sexual feelings. In this 4 years period, I never gave much thought to my grand-uncle. I totally forgot the incidents. When I first got sexual feelings, It was not towards my grand-uncle. It was towards other men.
2) Also, I had a very strong gender-non-conformity till I was 9 years old. I would ask my parents for women dress to wear. They would buy me that because of my compulsion. Also, I would paint nail-polish on my fingers. Though I was a small boy, I always behaved like a girl. BUT, I gradually left the cross-dressing as I began to grow up. After 10 years of age, I became very much like a man in dressing, walking, speaking (except for sexual orientation)
Considering my gender non-conformity at young age, I strongly feel that I would have been a gay even if I have never met my grand-uncle. But my parents are opposed to my view (they are christins)
I dont know what to do. Can you help me? Is there any way to objectively find what caused my homosexuality? How do I tell or convince my parents about it?
When I was 6 years old, when I visited my grand-uncle's home, he groped my male sexual organ for for some 1 to 2 minutes. I was NOT sexually aroused as I was very young. But I felt that it was a strange feeling.
The same thing happened at the age of 9. When my family visited his home, he touched me for 2 minutes. But he did that very jokingly. Like, he would grab my part from under the table while having lunch, touching it when playing games like hide& seek, chess etc..I took it as a fun. Again, I was NOT sexually aroused as I was young, but it was a strange feeling. But this time I told my parents and they never talked to my grand-uncle since then. I also didnt meet him since then.
Both incidents happened when I was 6 and 9 years old. It was at the AGE 13, I actually started getting sexual attractions. The attraction was always towards men. Just 2 years back, I told my parents (who are very very devout christians) that I am gay. They stand firm in their opinion that it was my grand-uncle's touch that made me gay. They deny that I was born gay. I am confused what caused it
Points to note:
1)There was 4 years gap between my second incident with my grand-uncle and me getting sexual feelings. In this 4 years period, I never gave much thought to my grand-uncle. I totally forgot the incidents. When I first got sexual feelings, It was not towards my grand-uncle. It was towards other men.
2) Also, I had a very strong gender-non-conformity till I was 9 years old. I would ask my parents for women dress to wear. They would buy me that because of my compulsion. Also, I would paint nail-polish on my fingers. Though I was a small boy, I always behaved like a girl. BUT, I gradually left the cross-dressing as I began to grow up. After 10 years of age, I became very much like a man in dressing, walking, speaking (except for sexual orientation)
Considering my gender non-conformity at young age, I strongly feel that I would have been a gay even if I have never met my grand-uncle. But my parents are opposed to my view (they are christins)
I dont know what to do. Can you help me? Is there any way to objectively find what caused my homosexuality? How do I tell or convince my parents about it?