Can someone who has experience in relationship matters help me out please?

[Needyouradvice1]

Hi guys! The following is the problem I'm having:

I am in love with a girl for quite a long time(around 7 years), but we were just normal friends for the past few years until I asked her out a few times last year. Then, one of her close friends sent me a message and told me that it was the first time she saw her friend somewhat interested in a guy. However, we didn't go into a relationship as I had to go overseas to further my studies. We just remained as friends.

When I found out that she(the girl I'm in love with) was interested in me because I'm nice, I told her that actually I'm not as nice as she thinks since I have quite a few flaws. Besides, I kept stressing this on several occasions. She then told me that even if I were to be back in my hometown now, we won't be together because my character doesn't suit her. I told her to give me some time to change for the better. A few months later when I returned to my hometown for a short holiday, she still agreed to go out with me to catch a movie.

Can someone kindly please enlighten me why did she say my character doesn't suit her? Is it because of my lack of self-confidence? If possible, please also kindly advise why did she still go out with me when she said that my character doesn't suit her. Really appreciate your advices and thank you very much in advance!

 

[James]

i had a simalar problem 2 years ago.
What i did is i came across as confident as pretty much all females are attracted to confidence.
She still went out with you because she wants to make you feel more comfortable with yourself so she can have you.

 

[rena]

It must be the flaws you told her, what other flaws would she know about

 

[mistywaters32129]

Because we are all drawn to bad boys . She got what she needed to hear from you; that you are going to work on change. She likes the good boy, she likes the bad boy but was smart enough to heed your warning about your character. She likes you. This one could actually be a happy ending!

 

[AlwaysLearning]

Because maybe she likes you and wants you as a friend. This is the only answer I could find. Also, quit telling her you're no good or that you have flaws. Stop putting yourself down. Read some books on self-esteem to help you feel more secure with yourself. That's a turn off for anyone if you tell them you have flaws but 7 years of friendship is a long time.