Did I do the right thing leaving my 4 year sexless relationship?

Pinkie

Member
Did I do the right thing leaving my 4 year sexless relationship?
A month ago I left my partner of 4 years. He was a "nice boy"with some positive points.He didn't smoke, drink, swear, and brought me brekkie in bed every morning for 4 years.

The problem was for 4 years I hinted for sex though he never came across, it was like he was to shy or embarrassed too. He was great company whenever we went out but at home he was a lonely person to live with. He never seemed to be able to just sit and talk, he always had to be doing something with his hands. He had a computer addition and would be on the computer 5 minutes after work, 5 minutes after waking up and most of the weekend if I didn't get him out. Only a telling off would get him off his computer but then he'd fall back into his old habit. I couldnt handle the loneliness of living with him no longer a month ago, he never seemed to notice how lonely I was as he sat at his computer. I fled to my mums and have now brought my own home. I haven't spoken to him since the day I fled. Maybe I'm paying him back for all those nights I felt neglected as he sat at his computer. I took with me 4 animals and my child so guess he'd be feeling lonely now. However NOW I feel so lonely and I cant help wondering if I did the right thing leaving my 4 year sexless relationship ?
PS - and no he's not gay just shy and doesn't open up

Tracy
 

mee1

Member
if after 4 years he is still shy and wont open up around you then i think you did the right thing.
you should have someone who trusts you and can be themselves.
xx
 

Meg

Member
Four years is a long time. He seems like a nice guy so maybe you should have been more forward with sex if you really wanted it. I'm a strong believer in second chances so that would be my advice, just take the computer off him!
 
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