My husband is about to start his truck driving career. We're 22 years old, been together for 6 years & married for 7 months. We're pretty sure he won't get a lot of home time with his new job, at least for the first year or so. But, we have a child on the way. The baby is due December 1st! & I really want my husband to be here for his son, & he wants to be here too, but working on a dock just wasn't cutting it anymore. Anyways, my point is, Im worried about the effects his new trucking career could have on our marriage & family. I know truck drivers have the highest divorce rate of any other career, I was just wondering, is there hope? I love my husband very much, & I don't want to raise our child alone!
How to keep my marriage & family together while my husband is driving a truck!?
I'm 17 years old, you might think I don't have the capability to answer this question but I will based it on experience. My uncle is a truck driver outside my country he has been there for years already and yes he seldom goes home he just sends money to his family. But until now they are still happy together the technique is communication. Even if they are away from each other they call and text each for the whole day to keep the intimacy going. It's fine honey all relationship must go through a trial to make it stronger! You guys can overcome that love will keep you alive! I hope I answered your question well. 
ElMexicano
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There is always hope. At times it will seem that you are indeed raising the child by yourself, but it will only be temporary. Especially now that he is trying to set the foundation for the rest of the career. Do not despair remember that the key to a good marriage is communication, understanding, and supporting each other.
Nice planning there.
Do you think this whole thing is some kind of game?
You want everything to be your own way! You don't like this, don't like that and you wonder why it's all messed up?
You can't have it your own way!
Driving truck is one thing.
Marriage is another.
Kids are another.
And they will always be in conflict with each other. THe point is to work through that conflict to the best that it can be. And that's not going to be good anyway you look at it.
Getting married is NOT supposed to be about YOU getting your own selfish needs met!
Did you even THINK about what your vows were?
Better go back and listen to them again because, obviously, you don't even know what you said.
Do you think this whole thing is some kind of game?
You want everything to be your own way! You don't like this, don't like that and you wonder why it's all messed up?
You can't have it your own way!
Driving truck is one thing.
Marriage is another.
Kids are another.
And they will always be in conflict with each other. THe point is to work through that conflict to the best that it can be. And that's not going to be good anyway you look at it.
Getting married is NOT supposed to be about YOU getting your own selfish needs met!
Did you even THINK about what your vows were?
Better go back and listen to them again because, obviously, you don't even know what you said.
You can always jump in the truck with him and tag along. That way you can keep him comfortable. After all he needs some to keep him awake. There is lots of space in those truck ya know and there is rest stops were usually 20 miles apart globally. LOL
You can sing until then? Have fun! don't forget the Kuchela?
You can sing until then? Have fun! don't forget the Kuchela?
It takes someone special to be married to a truck driver. You will be mother and father to this child, you will have a man come then go, he will be home long enough to wash his clothes, and be gone again. You don't know if he will like being on the road, he has to be a loner for this to happen. All you can do is have a set time to talk to one another throughout the day, a good cell phone package that will allow this. Your child won't know their father or be close to them, but that is the sacrifices that will be made for a dollar. If you want it to work, you will be the one to make it work, he will be leading his own life while you lead yours. If you don't like being alone, your on the road to divorce.
My husband and I were over the road for several years. I cant tell you the things I saw out there and I would never , never let my husband out on the road without me.
The hookers come right to your truck , you dont need to find one.
The drug dealers , come to you as well and some are hookers with a dual role.
The trucking companies promise you the world and you never get it. He wont get home on time and he may not even get the pay he was told he would get.
The companies push and push you to get the loads delivered , but never give you enough time to sleep. They tell you off the record to have 2 log books and demand you get your loads delivered on time.
Often times you are stranded in the middle of nowhere with mechanical problems and it could be days before you get help and back on the road. We were refused a tire and had to drive from Texas to Arizona on a missing tire with a heavy load. It was very unsafe , but we had no money or we would have bought our own tire. We risked a ticket but didnt get caught.
The directions they give you are rarely right so you waste a lot of time looking to drop your load and move on to the next.
Driving in horrible weather , lack of sleep, eating nothing but bad truck stop food. Its not worth the money. Its not worth what it can do to a new family.
I could go on about the reasons not to do it , but I think you get the idea. Its way cheaper to get a lower paying job in town and not have your husband gone for months at a time and spending most of the money on food and necessities.
Im glad you asked so you could be prepared at least. I wish your family the best.
The hookers come right to your truck , you dont need to find one.
The drug dealers , come to you as well and some are hookers with a dual role.
The trucking companies promise you the world and you never get it. He wont get home on time and he may not even get the pay he was told he would get.
The companies push and push you to get the loads delivered , but never give you enough time to sleep. They tell you off the record to have 2 log books and demand you get your loads delivered on time.
Often times you are stranded in the middle of nowhere with mechanical problems and it could be days before you get help and back on the road. We were refused a tire and had to drive from Texas to Arizona on a missing tire with a heavy load. It was very unsafe , but we had no money or we would have bought our own tire. We risked a ticket but didnt get caught.
The directions they give you are rarely right so you waste a lot of time looking to drop your load and move on to the next.
Driving in horrible weather , lack of sleep, eating nothing but bad truck stop food. Its not worth the money. Its not worth what it can do to a new family.
I could go on about the reasons not to do it , but I think you get the idea. Its way cheaper to get a lower paying job in town and not have your husband gone for months at a time and spending most of the money on food and necessities.
Im glad you asked so you could be prepared at least. I wish your family the best.