How would you feel if your husband went do frequent vacations without you?

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My husband is loving and resectful. There is one thing that bothers me. He is a sports nut and he goes on trips with his friends every few weeks. When he is gone he's gone for a week. I take care of the kids and our family business.

I'm never invited because they are guy trips and I have to hold down the fort. Its been 3 years since we have had a family vacation because of the economy. And it has been 5 years since a romanic get away.

He does his work when he gets back and buys me flowers too.

How would you feel?
 
Sorry, but I don't feel he's being a bit fair by you. He's completely getting away from home, IS "taking vacations" regardless of how he "labels" them, & you're staying home ALONE doing your "every day hum drum" chores as you always do. Why can't he take a "get away" week with you?! You too have the rite to get away from the home & do something different too. I'm a very fair person, but this would NOT "fly" with me in the least. I'm sure you could find someone to take care of the kids for you, OR even one of the other couples could switch off with you. I'm sure you could work something fair out even with one of them & the wives would no doubt welcome the idea too, Fair IS fair, but this just doesn't seem that way to my way of thinking. Have a serious talk with him & see what you can figure out where more of you would benefit from it. As for the flowers, I doubt they even live as long as the period of time he's away! Sorry, but something is lop sided about this whole set up! You are as deserving as he is & I'd advise him of that fact...best to you...:)
 
Sorry, but I don't feel he's being a bit fair by you. He's completely getting away from home, IS "taking vacations" regardless of how he "labels" them, & you're staying home ALONE doing your "every day hum drum" chores as you always do. Why can't he take a "get away" week with you?! You too have the rite to get away from the home & do something different too. I'm a very fair person, but this would NOT "fly" with me in the least. I'm sure you could find someone to take care of the kids for you, OR even one of the other couples could switch off with you. I'm sure you could work something fair out even with one of them & the wives would no doubt welcome the idea too, Fair IS fair, but this just doesn't seem that way to my way of thinking. Have a serious talk with him & see what you can figure out where more of you would benefit from it. As for the flowers, I doubt they even live as long as the period of time he's away! Sorry, but something is lop sided about this whole set up! You are as deserving as he is & I'd advise him of that fact...best to you...:)
 
I wouldn't be ok with that at all. My partner goes away on trips - but he is in professional sport, and these are paid for. I don't honestly think in any circumstance is it ok for a husband (or wife) so go away on such regular trips that you pay for out of your pocket and leave family behind. Ask him howhe would feel if you went away every few weeks for a week at a time and left him home with the kids.
 
Wow, flowers? Big deal. Put your foot down and tell him that you deserve a getaway of your own (with him, I mean). He married to you, not his friends.
 
So you take care of your kids and your family business while he goes off w/ his friends for a week every few weeks? He is taking advantage of you big time. He is not as loving and respectful as you believe that he is.
 
Sorry I myself is a Husband..........So no comments on husband...LONG LIVE HUSBAND.
 
can you let him know how its making you feel and ask him to put your family first? He's being selfish
 
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