Husband taking vacation day to spend with his sister.?

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Is it wrong for me to get upset that my husband is taking a random vacation day to watch Monday night football with his sister? He only has so many vacation days left. I have an Aunt who is extremely sick and is on Hospice care, she is not expected to live through the end of the year. Because his employers don't count my aunt for his funeral leave, he would need vacation time to go. My Aunt and her family live in another state. But he tells me that his sister has asked to spend time with him, so he told her he would take a vacation day and watch TV. I don't have a problem with him wanting to spend time with his sister, we go to her childrens football game on Fridays, he is running a 10K race with her this saturday, they meet for dinner once a week, and she lives next door! And he has never, ever asked me to take a random vacation day to just spend time together, they have always been planned!! Also, there have been a few times in the past that I've been called off from work and I've asked him "Why don't you take the day off, and we'll do something together?" and his answer has always been NO! Am I wrong for being upset?
 
Just chill and let him know that it would mean a lot to you toto take rendezvous vacation days and spend having some quality time alone together and a day for you sick aunt. Be nice about saying this and see how he reacts. If he rejects both then ask him why?...Brothers and sisters should be close but taking vacation days off to watch tv with a sibling doesn't seem necessary unless one of them have an illness you don't know about. Seems a little odd. I hope that is a respectful brotherly-sisterly relationship only. Hate to say it but you may want to spy some of the text convos if they have them...also it just occurred to me that he could be getting ideas from his sister to plan a surprise for you? Who knows just keep an eye out and don't just to conclusions yet so hold that temperment in check at least for a little while.
 
No you are not wrong for being upset. He is being selfish and not thinking of you and your family. He is being self-centered. Tell him so and tell him exactly how you feel and see what he says. You will be able to tell a lot about him with his answer to you.
 
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