I feel like everything my mom says to me she says just to hurt me....

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...Normally I can play it off, joke about..? it, but that means i'm making fun of her in her mind. It gets her mad but i didn't really care because it kept me from feeling bitter (maybe not the best approach, but i feel pathetic just standing there and taking it). Now I feel bitter because what she's saying's getting to me. I feel stupid cuz I'm overly sensitive now because someone beside my mom basically told me I was stupid with a 5 minute speech and they were totally right. I'm stuck with all this self-doubt that i'm trying to work through it. I'm not good at a lot of things and I'm trying to become better, but she's not helping. She can say one line now and I end up all teary-eyed. It's pretty pathetic.

What do you think i should do? Don't say i need to talk it out with her. There's no reasoning with her, i've tried for years. How do I deal? Stay quiet and take it? Just nod my head and hope she leaves asap?
 
since she is your mother, she has to talk and have dialogue with you. you can right a letter to her expressing your sentiments about the situation.
 
Eleanor Roosevelt said, "Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission." Remember that quote.

Don't let others make fun of you or put you down. If your mother and a friend both have said things about you, ask yourself if part of what they say might be true. If it is not true, then stick up for yourself. Don't let people talk to you like that. Just walk away and say, "I don't have to listen to this."

If you are happy with yourself, you shouldn't let people put you down. It is that simple. Stay away from negative people. I know it is difficult when your own mother is doing this, but let it go in one ear and out the other. Then say, "Gee, thanks." and walk away.
 
I'm sorry you are feeling so down right now. Your mother and this other person should not be telling you bad things about yourself. I bet there are plenty of good things about you that they aren't noticing. Find someone who does see good things in you. Whether it is a friend, another relative, someone who you can talk to. That will make you stronger and better able to deal with your mother's negative remarks to you.

Being teary-eyed and feeling hurt when someone is being mean to you is not pathetic. It's an honest emotional reaction. Be gentle with yourself since you mother is not.
 
my mom does the same thing, and you just have to deal with it when you see her, but also avoid her as much as you can. you can stay in your room, or go outside, or be with friends, but being around her too much will only make it worse.
 
I can only try to understand how painful it can be having to listen to a parent, the person who's supposed to have your best interests at heart, talk in a way that tears and breaks you down in lieu of building you up. I'd suggest to try and talk to another 'mother-figure' about it like a maternal aunt (her sister(s). They can be able to tell you more about how she was growing up, especially at her age and her relationship with her mum (your grandma) at about the same age that you are right now. Maybe it was strained and distant and she's living the same way with you and maybe not trying to make a genuine effort to try and understand you just like maybe she tried to make her mum understand her. It could be the case of a vicious generational cycle. If opening up to your aunts doesn't work, you can try a counselor, maybe from the church or school, and he/she can also act like a mediator between your mum and yourself. I hope that everything will eventually pan out for you. Take heart and continue being brave.
 
Tell her to fuck off, call her a whore and be the bad child. Tell her she cant push you around and scream at her a little bit before storming out. Im not kidding, buddy, just do it. Dont be scared. She cant push you around, you are your own person and no woman, man, child, thing should put you down. Its time to grow a backbone, kid.
 
Since you can't talk to her try putting it in writing. Tell her how she really make you feel. place it where she can find it. it has a different effect this way. write it exactly as you feel. Good Luck
 
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