LoL my brother!! Haha. Are bi-curious people expected to experiment or wait it

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IanLovesNoel<3

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out...? LOL. My brother came into my room and was like, *sigh* "It came, Ian."
And I was like, "What?"
And he was like, "My bi-curious phase. It's here."

I almost died of laughter.

My brother is straight haha. It's a phase, I'm pretty sure. I mean if it wasn't I'd be fine (if my twin was gay like me that'd be SO effing cool... we'd like... rule the world or something LoL) but I think it's a phase, he thinks it's a phase, we all think it's a phase.

He's like, "So what am I supposed to do? Watch guy porn or something?"

I was like "Dude, did it just like dawn on you that "oh, my phase is here now" or something?"

LoL apparently he's been looking at guys bodies recently. We're sixteen and people usually get it earlier but hey, to each their own. He's totally open minded about this all (he's more of a LGBT activist than I am LoL) but he wants to know what he's supposed to do. Because we were thinking maybe if he was with a guy, it'd just be superficial and not fair, but he doesn't really want to hook up with a guy anyway, but he's becoming very analytical wondering what he's supposed to do with his bi-curiousness.

I really can't stop laughing. He's in my room and we're still talking about this and cracking up... well, it's a you-have-to-be-here thing but seriously it's sooo funny.
Haha I think he means is he supposed to pursue it or just dismiss it because it's just a phase or whatevs.
(Again, he's sitting right near me LoL we're laughing about this.)
He's curious haha. He says he wants to know, but he's unsure of whether or not he'd like it so he's afraid.
Haha. (I'm his brother I'm allowed to laugh at him...)
 
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MichaelA1

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Well, what does he *want*?

If he wants to snuggle with a buddy and just experience some warmth, that's cool and pretty non-threatening. Everyone needs hugs and cuddling.

If he wants to look at and touch a guy's body, he could do that if the other boy was also kinda curious. If they are on the same page and are really laid back and cool, it would be okay. Hahaha, does a boy in his Gay-Straight Alliance want to experiment with a straight boy? lol.

Otherwise, it's not a big deal. Feelings are just feelings.

if it's an overpowering urge, that's one thing. But if it's not too big a deal, he doesn't really have to do anything but to wait for the hormones to calm down.

If he really likes girls most, I'd suggest just holding tight so he doesn't confuse his emotions. But again -- what does his body want? What does his heart want? Only he knows.

EDIT:

Well, if it's just mild curiosity, give it up, don't let it consume you.

But if you *really* want to know what it's like to make out with a boy, then find a super cute, super nice boy in your gay-straight alliance or whatever, and explain that you are very curious and also a bit anxious, and ask if he'd want to make out a bit with you as an experiment.

If you do that, (1) take it one step at a time, and (2) agree beforehand that you will stop at any point if it gets too nervous or you don't like it, no offense taken, no strings attached.

So, like, you could start fully clothed just snuggling.
Then remove most of clothing and rub each other's backs, arms, fingers, legs, feet, maybe even chest.
Try kissing gently, softly. Cheek, neck, forehead, softly on the lips.
Kiss and make out more if wanted.
If desired, get naked and just rub and caress each other.
Don't go beyond this unless you really want to.
If desired, use some lube and either one at a time (for focus) or both (for interest) jerk each other off. See if you like it.
Don't go beyond that point unless you really want to.
If desired, you could even try oral, but watch those teeth, and be slow and sexy.

DO NOT proceed to anal. That, to me, is not experimenting, but more a sign of commitment.

If at any point you want to stop, do so, and hug each other, laugh about it, and go on being friends. Okay?

You sound like one awesome young man. Don't be afraid of anything, ever. If you like it, cool. If you don't like it, cool. Either way, it is learning.

Just be a loving, caring human being and you will be fine!

EDIT 2:

One more thought for Ian's brother.
If you do this kind of experimenting with a boy,
make sure it is someone you like.
If at any point you stop in the proceedings,
or if you go all the way to oral, whatever,
in any case, when you are done,
be very affectionate with him!

Linger, hug each other, hold him.

Then in the future, do not avoid him.
Remain a friend, and talk to him and treat him kindly,
as you normally would, or maybe just a bit more nicely.

Because, this boy would have shared something
very personal with you, something very tender.

Be glad for that, never regret it, and be thankful for him and for your good life experiences.

Hugs!
 
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MikeJ

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What does he mean "what am I supposed to do"?

He should just carry on with his life. Nothing changed really, he just needs to act like he normally does :)

EDIT:Well, he could actually be bi-sexual. He doesnt need to express it if he doesnt want to, or maybe he only wants to express it alone.

Nothing wrong with that :)
 
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