My girlfriend wants to take a break in our relationship because we

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Anim8t0r

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always argue, what do I do? Well, my girlfriend and I have been going out for close to 2 months now, and as quick as it may seem, I really do love her. I sit with her on the bus all the time and hold her hand, but for some reason I get all nervous when I try to talk to her... Anyway, for the past week or so, at school I would see her acting kinda flirty with other guys, and I would confront her about it later on in the day and somehow it almost always turns into an argument. So just recently when she told me that she wanted to take a break, I was caught off guard and just accepted it. I promised myself that when the break is off, I will change for her... to suit her needs, and be better overall. I'm certain that I have nothing to worry about when it comes to breaking up, or cheating, but still though, I'm kinda worried... Any advice?
 
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Megan

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It sounds like you all are pretty young.. I would guess 8th or 9th grade. So try not to make too big a deal out of this, simply because as much as it sucks to think about, it probably won't last. It really sounds to me that she feels tied down and wants to be able to flirt with other guys without someone getting on her about it. Sometimes relationships are just too hard at that age because it's natural to want to flirt with people and have fun. She wants a break, which means that you two aren't dating anymore. You aren't officially over, but you also aren't together, so it's that weird gray area in between - and I know it sucks. Maybe it would be better to just let her do her own thing, and if she wants to come back to you she will. If not, she won't, and you'll find someone new who's probably better for you anyway. Good luck!
 
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LuisFer

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Well, I would just like to say that a break is a person's way of saying they need time away from the other. If you spend a lot of time with her, she may feel overwhelmed and may be frustrated that she sees you so much. Perhaps you two argue because you are constantly together-a little personal space never hurt anyone. My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 months also, I don't think love is the right word because I've learned that it is really strong but I like her a lot. Maybe instead of focusing on being in love with her, focus on why you are in love with her and if your reasons are truly valid. Most of the time, that so called 'love' is simply a twisted reality because you fall into a phase. You fight, make up, honey moon period.
 
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