My mom makes arguing a nightmare?

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I mean, instead of a typical heated discussion, she completely ignores everything I say and interrupts me... sort of like a very long rant. so i keep having to repeat myself, so she says I'm mental and keep repeating things.

there really is no reasoning with her. She freaking ignores everything that makes her seem bad, and only replies when she has a good comeback.

Should I just buy a good pair of headphones and lock myself in my room next time she gets furious? I can't write my thoughts down, she doesn't read english well. I tried talking to her about it once, she ignored me (go figure). After an hour of cooling down she is perfectly fine again and even nicer. yes she is bipolar lol.

ex.
"HOW DARE YOU DEMOLISH YOUR ROOM LIKE THAT!"
"mom it was only a tissue i'll pick it up"
"AFTER FIFTEEN YEARS OF RAISING YOU THIS IS HOW YOU REPAY ME!"
"it was only-"
"YOU NEVER THINK ABOUT EVERYTHING I HAVE TO GO THROUGH TO RAISE YOU FOR ALL THESE YEARS."
"you're not even listening to me!"
"IT WAS SO PAINFUL GIVING BIRTH TO YOU, AND YOU CAN'T EVEN BOTHER NOT TO TURN YOUR ROOM INTO A GARBAGE WASTELAND!"

etc etc .
 
Try this:

"I am sorry that I demolished my room with a tissue. I am sorry I have disappointed you and I will cry myself to sleep tonight. I truly love you, mother."

Only don't sound sarcastic.

Then, she can't keep being mad because you've sort of admitted your guilt; and she will feel bad about saying anything.

This is a useful tactic to learn in other situations. Say you bring a plate of snickerdoodles to a party and the snotty hostess says, "Oh, how nice...we don't eat those."

You could tell her she's rude, or you could say, "I'm sorry. I didn't mean to offend you. I'll take them away." and then everyone will feel bad for you, not her.

See what I mean?

Arguing with someone who's unreasonable will not work, so turn the tables on them and control them.
 
I'm guilty of this, last night actually. After I realized how I acted I apologized to my daughter. Maybe you can bring this up to your mom when your not arguing.
 
lol. that's exactly what my mom's like, only she says it fast in a different language with a high pitched voice. psh. my brother and I always say she yells too much and she just says we're being dramatic.
" I'm not yelling. why do you say I'm yelling? I am not yelling. Is this yelling? This is talking. listen. See, this is talking, not yelling. You're just overreacting. This is talking. " it goes on longer than this unless I go to my room and ignore her. she COULD be bipolar. hmm...
just try turning the tables on her as the other person wrote as their answer.
 
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