My Step-Dad is making my mum and me argue and he is making me feel really down....

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esmee

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...How can I get this to stop? I have known my stepfather for 7 years (I'm 15) we have always had a large personality clash, but we can get along really well sometimes and that is really lovely.
It just seems that if my mum and me have a small argument he will step in and make it 100% worse by making me really angry and twisting it so my mum see's it in a much worse way.
I also have two younger siblings, one is his and the other is his stepson. Both of them show to me really obviously that they favour them and it knocks my self confidence badly.
I just want things to be okay again, and I'm not being unrealistic and asking for everything to be fabulous, I just don't want to always be feeling like this.
Thanks. E.
 
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ClicketyClack

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You need to find times that you can speak to your mum alone about this. The favoritism of both of them towards the other kids is the most troublesome, I imagine. Also, when you get in an argument with your mum, just calm down and ask her if you and she can discuss it later. Then get together with her when he is not there.

He knows how to push your buttons and get you angry. If you can stop reacting to him when he does that and just calm down and let him talk and talk with little response from you, then he may give up since he isn't getting the reaction from you that he's trying to provoke. You basically refuse to play the game. It's not easy but it can be done. Good luck!! : {
 
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