CryinIrishEyes
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I am a homeschooled 18yo girl needing advice on how to handle a disagreement with my mum. First off, my mum and I are very close and never argue. She is easy to talk to and a good confidant but very insistent that I attend an upcoming prom for my high school graduation. This may seem like a petty problem but let my explain why I feel so strongly about it.
Almost three years ago, I went through a traumatic move away from close friends and family. For the first year I believe I had (undiagnosed) depression. I have so much to be thankful for and have come to realize that better now but I still struggle with stress/anxiety issues that I developed after moving. Before the move, I attended many social events for homeschoolers. I never felt I had much in common with those my age but I was a people pleaser and felt obligated to be everyone’s friend. As I matured, I came to realize this and how special/genuine a REAL friendship is. About this time I moved and now have somewhat of a social anxiety around those my age. To make a long story short, I just REALLY don’t enjoy being around people my age.
I have always attended whatever social event she’s wanted me to. She just wants me to have all the wonderful high school memories she did. She keeps saying how fun this will be and that we’re going to get a “knock-out dress.” Her mindset is that deep down I want to attend and will have a good time once I’m there. I’ve brought this up many times is a two minute conversation filled with laughs to lighten it up because I DO NOT was to start an argument. She too is a sensitive person and I know any argument would hurt her. I have never, ever yelled at her but I feel so strongly about this subject that I feel like I want to and I hate that. This is why I’m asking for advice. What can say to try and get through? I have put off this conversation for so long but in a few days she’ll be attending a homeschoolers meeting in which she’ll be paying the $50 for my attendance. I can’t even begin to word how immensely upset/horrified I am over this - I don’t want to go but I equally don’t want to hurt my mum. Please, please give me some advice.
Also, please state if your a mother or daughter. I'd like to hear both sides.
Almost three years ago, I went through a traumatic move away from close friends and family. For the first year I believe I had (undiagnosed) depression. I have so much to be thankful for and have come to realize that better now but I still struggle with stress/anxiety issues that I developed after moving. Before the move, I attended many social events for homeschoolers. I never felt I had much in common with those my age but I was a people pleaser and felt obligated to be everyone’s friend. As I matured, I came to realize this and how special/genuine a REAL friendship is. About this time I moved and now have somewhat of a social anxiety around those my age. To make a long story short, I just REALLY don’t enjoy being around people my age.
I have always attended whatever social event she’s wanted me to. She just wants me to have all the wonderful high school memories she did. She keeps saying how fun this will be and that we’re going to get a “knock-out dress.” Her mindset is that deep down I want to attend and will have a good time once I’m there. I’ve brought this up many times is a two minute conversation filled with laughs to lighten it up because I DO NOT was to start an argument. She too is a sensitive person and I know any argument would hurt her. I have never, ever yelled at her but I feel so strongly about this subject that I feel like I want to and I hate that. This is why I’m asking for advice. What can say to try and get through? I have put off this conversation for so long but in a few days she’ll be attending a homeschoolers meeting in which she’ll be paying the $50 for my attendance. I can’t even begin to word how immensely upset/horrified I am over this - I don’t want to go but I equally don’t want to hurt my mum. Please, please give me some advice.
Also, please state if your a mother or daughter. I'd like to hear both sides.