malaikakhan20
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want to come over? Since about last October my mother took it upon herself to invite a homeless man into her home so that he could get back on his feet and get his "Social Security Check" Let's call this guy Donald. Anyway, my mom has spent her entire life telling me to not trust anyone and if you are going to help homeless people out just give them food, money, or blankets.
Well for Thanksgiving she invited me to come over. I go to college and live in another state and am 20 years old. My family consists of a disabled step-dad, my half brother who is 16 and my mother. I love them all but my fiance and I both did not feel comfortable going over to spend a few days because the house is too small and Donald sleeps in the living room and I refuse to force my brother to sleep next to him so that my fiance and I can sleep in the one available bedroom.
Well since then my parents have proceeded to invite my fiance and I over for the holidays, First the weather got really bad and all of the roads were closed down. So my mother decided to take a bus down to come see me in my town to also look for a place to live because my parents want to live near me and whatever. Well she cancelled the trip several times for stupid reasons, like "We got a new dog now, I can't make the trip yet" or something like that, Or "we don't have the money to do that yet, lets wait"
Then my step-dad calls to ask if I could come over BY MYSELF if my mom sent the money for a bus ticket because my car cannot make the trip, then she would drive me back home in her car. The passes are bad to drive in, her car has never been tested on the road, and I thought she had just said they don't have the money???
I told dad that it didn't make sense and that I for CERTAIN would not come over by myself with a stranger in my home because I don't feel comfortable with it. Besides that, none of the rooms in the house have working locks on them and I cannot share a room with my parents because they smoke and it sets off my asthma. It just doesn't seem like a good situation to me. Donald had even told my parents that he is Schizophrenic with Homocidal tendencies. I keep telling my parents that it isn't safe and the guy has already shown a violent side towards my family already. Since I keep refusing to come over my step-dad and mom have been very angry at me and we got into a fight, them saying that i am being selfish and making up excuses not to come over while I am just trying to show them that it isn't a good idea right now maybe in the spring time when I have a semester break or something.
All of my life my mother has called me a rug but now that I am older and have been on my own for two years and know how to stand up for myself i am not a willfull child and selfish. Am I wrong to not go over or should I be standing strong with my decision? I don't like fighting with my family but I seriously do not feel safe going over there and I have tried to get them to leave too. Call it my gut feeling or whatever but I don't like the situation. I know my mom would NEVER come to my house if I had some strange man living in there with me, but she thinks it is perfectly fine to force me into a situation she wouldn't tolerate?
Please tell me if I am wrong or not.
Sorry it is so long....
Well for Thanksgiving she invited me to come over. I go to college and live in another state and am 20 years old. My family consists of a disabled step-dad, my half brother who is 16 and my mother. I love them all but my fiance and I both did not feel comfortable going over to spend a few days because the house is too small and Donald sleeps in the living room and I refuse to force my brother to sleep next to him so that my fiance and I can sleep in the one available bedroom.
Well since then my parents have proceeded to invite my fiance and I over for the holidays, First the weather got really bad and all of the roads were closed down. So my mother decided to take a bus down to come see me in my town to also look for a place to live because my parents want to live near me and whatever. Well she cancelled the trip several times for stupid reasons, like "We got a new dog now, I can't make the trip yet" or something like that, Or "we don't have the money to do that yet, lets wait"
Then my step-dad calls to ask if I could come over BY MYSELF if my mom sent the money for a bus ticket because my car cannot make the trip, then she would drive me back home in her car. The passes are bad to drive in, her car has never been tested on the road, and I thought she had just said they don't have the money???
I told dad that it didn't make sense and that I for CERTAIN would not come over by myself with a stranger in my home because I don't feel comfortable with it. Besides that, none of the rooms in the house have working locks on them and I cannot share a room with my parents because they smoke and it sets off my asthma. It just doesn't seem like a good situation to me. Donald had even told my parents that he is Schizophrenic with Homocidal tendencies. I keep telling my parents that it isn't safe and the guy has already shown a violent side towards my family already. Since I keep refusing to come over my step-dad and mom have been very angry at me and we got into a fight, them saying that i am being selfish and making up excuses not to come over while I am just trying to show them that it isn't a good idea right now maybe in the spring time when I have a semester break or something.
All of my life my mother has called me a rug but now that I am older and have been on my own for two years and know how to stand up for myself i am not a willfull child and selfish. Am I wrong to not go over or should I be standing strong with my decision? I don't like fighting with my family but I seriously do not feel safe going over there and I have tried to get them to leave too. Call it my gut feeling or whatever but I don't like the situation. I know my mom would NEVER come to my house if I had some strange man living in there with me, but she thinks it is perfectly fine to force me into a situation she wouldn't tolerate?
Please tell me if I am wrong or not.
Sorry it is so long....