Parents rarely to never let me hang out with ANY friends!! 10 Points if yours are...

[loveanpeace4eva]

...stricter!? Ok so I am about 16 and my parents don't EVER let me hang out w/ my friends. It's frustrating because my school is more of the cliquey type than popular not popular but there are still like the one group of kids of pretty girls and guys you don't mess with. I'm annoyed because I've been friends with all these people at one time but we never hung out and drew apart and i KNOW i would definitely have the potential to be "popular". My friends always invite me places but my parents always ask "wat do u mean by HANG OUT?" or they tell me that all my friends will turn on me someday. But even if im not friends forever with people I only have a childhood once and you still need people 2 hold you through the perils of high school. So I am actually very loud but lately i've just gotten so quiet that i just stopped talking at school pretty much totally because I dont know how to act. For example, when i go to a friends house about once a year(LITERALLY and only for a birthday party w/ no guys and no past maybe 10) i am comfortable with the friend but i don't even know how to act in their house cuz i'm not used to hanging out w/ people. My parents are Nigerian but i know plenty of other nigerians and none of their parents are as strict as that. i have NEVER found any other parent as strict as mine! They all have at least 1 rule they dont have and i do. Like i only get to a dance 1nce in my whole childhood and that is my senior year and im not allowed to date or call any guys or even when my dad just sees me saying hi i get in BIIIIGG trouble. no i can not take the law into my own hands because(not to generalize) but cultural or non-white kids usually get physical punishment if they don't obey their parents. I've NEVER been grounded in my life. you mite think that's cool but would you rather be grounded or slapped and beaten?? yea that's wat i thot. im getting anxious because i know that i won't b a kid forever and i want to be able to go to my kids 1 day and tell them i had a great childhood and all the things me and my friends did. Also realize it hasn't always been like this. it's gotten WORSE over the years. when i was about 9 years old my parents would let me and my siblings of which the oldest was 13 to ride our bikes to the culdesac of our neighborhood which they couldn't see till NINE PM!! by ourselves and never really worried. i was always allowed to go to friends birthday partys and then right around middle school my dad made a rule of no more sleepovers. so it was annoying but i figured @ least i could still hang out with all my friends. Then it gradually became worse and i could only hang out w/ friends of who my parents knew their parents which wasn't possible if they never gave me a chance to introduce them. Then it was hang out only when it's a party. Then it was not on school days. and now it's always just no and my parents use my grades as an excuse and tell me i should b focusing on school but pretty much my whole life is on the whole damn computer and im so tired of being a loner when i know if i was actually allowed to hang out w/ people i would no sooo many more people and probably just be enjoying my life right now. my parents don't trust me AT ALL. when i give them answers it's pretty much useless because they just go right after and ask my siblings if it's true or not. I'm not allowed to wear makeup but i do anyway because of an effect of not hanging out with people i have become the most self conscious person. For example today at lunch i couldn't even get up to buy a bag of goldfish!! Also i had an English presentation i did today and for the first time in my life i almost had an anxiety attack. i could not talk and the words wouldn't come out at all. my teacher let me start again and even when i tried to yell my voice was below normal level and no one could hear what i was saying. i usually get a little nervous but when im up there im fine. this is effecting me emotionally and i only got out of the deepest depression about 3 months ago but it is all coming back now...

There's soo sooo much more but that would take to long to write. But i would appreciate if anyone could just write any suggestions they have or similar situations. I know it was long but thank you for enduring and reading through all this crap anyway. If you have any other questions about the situation just post them with ur answer.

P.S. Guys have started taking interests in me and I know about 3-4 that like me(1 has liked me for 4 years straight and he told me and still does) but i am not allowed to date and if i can't hang out with my friends i can't sneak out to the movies and "bump" into them or anything. but i like 1 of them and dont have any classes with them so just seeing them in the hall everyday will not last for long. help please!!!

 

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omg i feel the same way ! >:O

 

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I'm in the same situation. Today my friend asked me to go to the mall with her but I had to say no and make up an excuse because I know I won't be aloud to go. I have sone friends at school but I'm not as close to them as I can be because I never get to hang out with them. I am really frustrated And feel trapped at many times.